Zankon Posted October 22, 2003 Posted October 22, 2003 Ok here how it goes. This nice girl and I we've been dating for about 3 months. Every date goes just more than perfect. We started to show emotions for each other; longer hugs, soft kisses, holding hands, leaning on each other and so on. She confessed to me that she thinks about me every day and gets so excited everytime we are going on a date. If I don;t express my excitement too she feels like I m not too much into her. To sum up, it just goes the way any person would love it to be. My only problem with her is that during the week, she never calls, no txt-messaging, nothing. I call her every other day just to say "hi" or "checking you're ok" kinda thing. Never calls back until the end of the week. When I ask why she never bothered calling, she sais that family problems, work and things put her in such a bad mood that she just avoids talking to anybody. Myself, I see that as rude because how much energy do you need to pick up a phone and say "thanks for calling..." or a small SMS. During the date, she keeps saying that she doesn't wanna tell me her family issues because she doen't wanna bother me with her problems and she just wanna enjoy her time with me. Which we actually do but that communication prob just annoys me. Do you think it's me who's demanding too much from her, or it s her not caring much and I should look for another date. Thank you all.
2Confused4thought Posted October 22, 2003 Posted October 22, 2003 Maybe an unhappy relationship which she escapes from on the weekends or maybe she is just uncomfertable with her living situation but she is definately hiding something. If I where you I would try to find out a little more about her and in the meantime be catious. Maybe start by telling her that you would like to talk to her more during the week or see her more often and if she continues to be aloof then I would definately look into it. Try telling her "call me tomorrow" and see if she does and if not then yes, it is rude, and there must be a reason. It is not normal for a woman who is interested in a guy and has no other commitments to be so reserved.
Author Zankon Posted October 23, 2003 Author Posted October 23, 2003 I did ask her. She said that her parents are over protective and expect too much from her at her age. Indeed, at several occasions when were dating, either one of her parents would call at least twice to check on her. "I have no prob with that. But at least call." I asked. She replied that it s more complicated than what I think and asked me to be patient and understand her situation. So guys, should I go crazy with this issue or just let it go? Is she playing me? I kinda like the girl though. PS: we see each other once a week. If it happens to be twice, I m a holy man. When we meet, you can clearly see happiness in her eyes and she doesn't stop saying it.
amerikajin Posted October 23, 2003 Posted October 23, 2003 Keep playing it cool and don't get frazzled if she doesn't respond right away. Send her a text, and if she doesn't reply, leave it at that. In fact, you might want to skip a day or two of texting and calling and see how she responds. Don't be predictable. Don't start obsessing about her. Don't interrogate her. Don't talk about it too much. Keep your dates positive. If she doesn't want to get into her family issues, then don't get into it. Take her cues and go from there. As long as she's agreeing to go on dates with you, that's all that counts. If she suddenly starts wondering why you're no longer sending texts every day, just tell her kindly that you're trying to respect her space. Trust me, she'll get the picture.
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