It's the little things that we fight about...(did you see DATELINE about infidelity?)

[Vegas777]

My girlfriend of one year moved in about 6 weeks ago. Overall, its been good. But we fight about the smallest things.

 

To give you a little background, I have a huge 4,000 sq ft house and to help out I have 2 other roommates. The house is big enough for us all to have our own "space." But she has always been concerned moving in with roommates. She moved in because I told her if this relationship is heading where I think it is, she can move in and take the $500 she was paying in rent and pay off her credit cards. The plan is for me to pay off my credit cards w/ the roommates' rent and be independent of roommates come early 2010.

 

Now for the "little things." Its small stuff - like fridge space. She originally told me she likes to have her own fridge space. Now, there is an outside and an inside fridge. I told the roommates to try and keep their things together. Naturally, with 4 people shopping at different times, that may have been too casual as items get moved around.

 

Well she came home and had a panic attack one day. I ended up having a formal conversation w/ the roommates and blamed it on MY anal retentativeness. My girlfriend thought I blamed it on her...WHICH I KNEW NOT TO! The roommates were cool with it. We all now have our own "shelves" or designated areas. But my girlfriend got so pissed. Its like it was the end of the world.

 

Second, we communicate differently. I absolutely BEND OVER BACKWARDS FOR HER. But I don't feel she does the same. Yet, last night we were watching the Dateline Friday night about infidelity. I was interested in it because my parents of 30+ years recently got divorced due to my father cheating.

 

So as they were talking about why men cheat, she says "so since I don't appreciate you, does that mean you are going to cheat on me?" There is NO RIGHT ANSWER to this!? Even though I know I would never cheat on her...I would simply end the relationship IF IT EVER came to that. But I don't see it because I am madly in love with her.

 

I know I am all over the place with this post. But having a girlfriend move in and talk about getting engaged by the end of the year, you would think I would be on cloud nine...a 9 or 10 on the happiness scale. But I am more like a 6 and feel like I have to be P-E-R-F-E-C-T all the time...like walking on glass perfect.

 

I sort of chalk it up to us being in our early 30's and very independent and strong minded in our ways and what we want. Its just a matter of bringing 2 lives together?

 

Thoughts?

[2sunny]

oh man, why are you finding this attractive in a gal?

 

i'm wondering - how the heck a guy puts up with bs like this when there are soooo many great gals to choose from?

 

it will be a long life if you go down this road with her. and believe me... it won't be easy.