Dman Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 So basically last week I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years and 7 months. Now we did briefly split last year when I found out he'd cheated on me with another guy (we're a gay couple btw). I eventually forgave him for that and we moved on. Anyway the last few weeks he's been somewhat... odd. He kept making excuses not to see me and we barely did anything in the bedroom anymore. I just didn't get it. However he was always soon to get me to pay for things and buy him things and stupidly I did it. The other day a friend of mine saw him walking around in town with some guy. This turned out to be his friend from college's boyfriend. I texted the friend just to mention that his boyfriend and mine were in town together (seeing as they used to hate each other it was a bit odd). Anyway this friend then asked me to ring him which I did. He told me him and his boyfriend had broken up 2 days previous (a few days after my boyfriend dumped me). Before he'd broken up with his boyfriend he'd found dozens of messages on his boyfriend's phone from my boyfriend, calling each other "baby" and such. There was also loads of pictures and apparently my boyfriend had been seen at a club sitting on his friend's boyfriend's lap. The friend and I met in town the next day and went to a bar. The girl behind the bar said to the friend "I saw your boyfriend in here the other day with some half-caste guy [my boyfriend] - they were holding hands and rubbing each other's legs". Both our faces just dropped - it was confirmation. If that wasn't bad enough the friend told me "a year and a half ago when we started college me and Robert [my boyfriend] did stuff..." and I said "what kind of stuff?" and he proceeded "well he told me he was single... we didn't have full sex... I'm really sorry I just didn't know you were with him". I asked Robert about this and he said it was true. He said he did it because I "p*ssed him off" and that we "we'd broken up" at the time - we hadn't; not to my knowledge. I suppose what hurts me the most is not his most recent cheating (which he's denying), but the one from a year and a half ago - that's where I feel really betrayed and stupid because I never knew. I had no idea. I wasted another year and a half absolutely unaware I'd been cheated on. And when I asked him if he was sorry for it he said no and the days of feeling sorry for me were over. He said he doesn't regret it at all. I have no bad feeling towards the friend as I genuinely believe he didn't know we were together. I just thought we were happy a year and a half ago. Obviously he wasn't. I just don't know what I did wrong. I did so much for him - his homework for college, made his food, took him out, bought him things he wanted, babysat his nephew, loaned him money (that I never got back). I just feel I've been used. And now all the things I've ever been told about him that I didn't believe I fear are true too. I believe he's cheated on me on a few more occasions as well. Recently he was hanging around some guy a lot that I knew was attracted to him and my boyfriend said he was attracted to this guy too but would never do anything. I guess I was in denial. It's just so painful trying to figure out why. Knowing that by the time I'd come out and introduced him to my family as the love of my life he'd already cheated on me at least once. I just can't get my head around it...
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