hummingbird4 Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 I was in an abusive relationship for two years. My boyfriend had terrible mood swings, called me names, and hit me many times (I was never injured, thankfully). He did drugs and pressured me to give him money for that, and he would get me to do unsafe things in the bedroom by telling me if I said no, there were many others who would say yes. He was also an alcoholic and I probably developed a drinking problem from being around him About a month ago, he dumped me for another girl. I’ve been through a few nasty breakups, but this one was very bad. He has tried to turn all our mutual friends against me, and spread vicious, untrue rumors about me. In many ways, my life has been hell for the past month. The thing is … after everything he has done to me … I think I would still take him back, and I would still do anything for him. I hate myself for it. I’m not stupid; I know how incredibly unhealthy our relationship was, on many levels. It’s such a good thing that we’re not together now, and I know a lot about the dynamics of abusive relationships. Barring therapy, what can I do to make it hurt less and get over him in a healthy way?
EmperorR Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Realize your better without him, its a blessing in disguise that he dumped you, I know how hard it is to walk away from a abusive relationship but at least he ended it. I think therapy would benefit you greatly, as well maybe self help books, just keep telling yourself anyone is better than a piece of scum who puts his hand on you. Do your parents know that he hit you?, my ex gf was in a previous abusive relationship before me and it helped her talking to the the ones closet to her (parents / friends who aren't mutual)
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