sam light Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 I just never know about mid 30's women. Some insist on dating younger, while others open up to the idea of older men. It's pretty safe to assume a 20 something isn't interested in older. Typically I find 40+ women not often dating much younger. It's the 35 crowd that can go either way? Are you (or were you once) 35? What age men did you date, why?
Cherished Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I am mid-30's and I date within a few years older or younger, few being 3 or 4 years. Basically I date pretty close to my age.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I am 32, and when I get ready to start dating again, I will probably be more drawn to guys my own age or older. I think most men aren't anywhere near being ready to get serious for real till around 35 to 40. Since I don't want to invest my time and energy in a guy who isn't established in his career and doesn't know what he wants yet, I will probably avoid the younger guys. You never know, though. I probably would not go any younger than 30, as the maturity gap would most likely be too wide.
tkgirl Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 well I was 35... 8 years ago (yikes!) does it count at all that I still look and feel 35? sometimes even younger.. anyways! for some reason all the guys I have dated the last ten years or so have all been 4 years younger! the "more serious" ones anyways... must be something with the chinese zodiac sign or something.. who knows? but yeah, I think all the guys I've ever dated have pretty much always been younger... just what I'm attracted to I guess!
WhyYesThankYou Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I'm 33, and I don't have any hard-and-fast rules or preferences. I can tell you that in terms of quantity, most of the guys I've dated/seen/played with recently have been much younger (early- to mid-20s). In terms of quality (duration and genuineness of a relationship), those guys have been close to my age (plus or minus 3 years). Older guys just don't approach me. I'd have nothing against dating an older guy, but for whatever reason, none have approached me. Why are you asking?
paddington bear Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I'm 36 and for some reason I keep getting 24 year olds hitting on me. I wouldn't go there because I simply think, they are not ready to settle down and so therefore it's dead in the water before it's even begun. I would like to date someone around my own age 4 years in either direction(ish). Guys in their 40's seem to still want girls in their 20's though, so actually although I'd be happy enough with them, I think I'm too old for them, even though I am actually younger - just not young enough...and with a ticking biological clock which a lot of men run a mile from, being in your mid-30's as a woman is tough in terms of dating, many men want an uncomplicated relationship, don't know if they want kids yet and so on. I think (correct me if I'm wrong here) that to guys in their 30's women of my age, due to biological clock thing = complication, = serious, heavy relationship and so they go for the younger ones, (and also, let's not forget, younger are prettier and will probably hero-worship them a little more than a woman their own age.)
Just Angel Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Depends on the type of relationship I was after. Its not likely that a man 10 yrs younger than I would be ready to settle down, so if that was my goal, I'd go with 30-45. (im 35) If I was just looking for a fun relationship with no long term expectations, then there would be no age limit.
Author sam light Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 I'm 36 and for some reason I keep getting 24 year olds hitting on me. I wouldn't go there because I simply think, they are not ready to settle down and so therefore it's dead in the water before it's even begun. I would like to date someone around my own age 4 years in either direction(ish). Guys in their 40's seem to still want girls in their 20's though, so actually although I'd be happy enough with them, I think I'm too old for them, even though I am actually younger - just not young enough...and with a ticking biological clock which a lot of men run a mile from, being in your mid-30's as a woman is tough in terms of dating, many men want an uncomplicated relationship, don't know if they want kids yet and so on. I think (correct me if I'm wrong here) that to guys in their 30's women of my age, due to biological clock thing = complication, = serious, heavy relationship and so they go for the younger ones, (and also, let's not forget, younger are prettier and will probably hero-worship them a little more than a woman their own age.) Depending on the individual, many 35 yr old are much prettier than 20 somethings. Some people bloom @ 16 then go downhill, Some 22 yr old stunners are matronly at 28, and a 20 year old stick blooms into a gorgeous 35 yr old. With fitness and good genes I see many very attractive ladies in their 40's and some in 50's too. Hero worship can be a plus for some guys I guess. It gets old after a time. Any non settle down type guy is going to fear a woman of any age that wants to settle. Probably more women in their 30's (opposed to 20's)have kids and that may be the complications you speak of. You're not too old for this 4o something:)
tkgirl Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Depending on the individual, many 35 yr old are much prettier than 20 somethings. Some people bloom @ 16 then go downhill, Some 22 yr old stunners are matronly at 28, and a 20 year old stick blooms into a gorgeous 35 yr old. With fitness and good genes I see many very attractive ladies in their 40's and some in 50's too. Hero worship can be a plus for some guys I guess. It gets old after a time. Any non settle down type guy is going to fear a woman of any age that wants to settle. Probably more women in their 30's (opposed to 20's)have kids and that may be the complications you speak of. You're not too old for this 4o something:) thanks Sam Light! I know you were responding to Paddington Bear but I appreciate what you said. I know I feel much "prettier" now than I did in my 20's or even early 30's.. mostly because I know who I am now and am lot more confident etc. And I found it interesting about what you said about the "hero-worship" thing. The last guy I was dating was this good looking rocker guy.... played guitar (and was really good!) and in a band and all that. I know there might have been a lot of "younger" and maybe "prettier" ones that would be happy to worship him. But I refused to be one of his little "groupies" and I think that's what attracted him to me. Alas.. it turned out he didn't know how to handle a women like me after all... so I think he's probably back to "dating" the young slutty groupie types...
Kamille Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I also feel prettier now then in my twenties. Way prettier. I tend to date whoever catches my interests... This has meant age differences anywhere from 15 years older than me to 10 years younger (the two most extreme cases). Like PB, a lot of the men that approach me now are in their mid-twenties. I'll give them a chance, get to know them, have fun, but I usually find they're a bit clumsy when it comes to relationships or simply not ready for relationships at all. I also find that the older men are, the better they treat me, and the more they are open to getting to know me for me. It could have something to do with the fact that they're better established, although I think it has something to do with maturity levels. Younger men are still into status-dating and into figuring out who they are. This often involves putting themselves ahead of the relationship. (Note: nothing wrong with that, just not what I'm interested in anymore.) Older men, in my experience, are looking for genuine experiences.
dreamergrl Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I'm not in my mid 30's but... I doubt I'll see myself dating someone in their 20's. I may date older.. as at 26-27 I've dated a 35 and 36 year old. The youngest I've dated was 4 years younger, and there was no real maturity there. Maybe it will be different later on.. who knows. Like Kamille said in her post, how she feels prettier now then she did in her 20's. I feel prettier now then I did when I was in my early 20's.
gopher Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Depending on the individual, many 35 yr old are much prettier than 20 somethings. Some people bloom @ 16 then go downhill, Some 22 yr old stunners are matronly at 28, and a 20 year old stick blooms into a gorgeous 35 yr old. With fitness and good genes I see many very attractive ladies in their 40's and some in 50's too. Hero worship can be a plus for some guys I guess. It gets old after a time. Any non settle down type guy is going to fear a woman of any age that wants to settle. Probably more women in their 30's (opposed to 20's)have kids and that may be the complications you speak of. You're not too old for this 4o something:) Dude, As a guy I get what you're saying about attraction. But, it was interesting how the women talked about emotional maturity and you honed in on the physical. Question for you...How define the difference between women in emotional maturity? Say 30, 40 and 50....
Author sam light Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 Dude, As a guy I get what you're saying about attraction. But, it was interesting how the women talked about emotional maturity and you honed in on the physical. Question for you...How define the difference between women in emotional maturity? Say 30, 40 and 50....Gopher as in gopher on the loveboat? now on Loveshack. The poster I replied to mentioned the "pretty" physical aspect. I really enjoy cool, calm, collected, intelligent, humorous women. While that can happen at any age, it seems more common after 35. I've met many in their 40's that are this way. The "try too hard" enthusiasm of people in their 20's (M or F)gets old fast. So does the ones with "it's hopeless" attitude. Honestly a women in her 50's must also be exceptionally pretty to attract me. They are fewer, but they are wonderful.
You'reasian Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Male (Late 20's to early 30's) here. I've dated women in their early 20's - fun, fast and flirty dates! Get to take charge - but unfortunately most (not all) women in this category are a little self-conscious and unsure of what they want. Typically lasts a few dates max. Women in their mid to late 20's - probably the best of both worlds. Especially if they are physically active! They're more experienced - more comfortable in their own skin, great conversation, are sufficiently busy with their career and they can still be kinda flirty in the girly kind of way even though they are very much women. Women in their mid 30's + smoothest dates. Really easy to be around and relax with, easy to talk to about anything and are arguably better in bed than some of the others - esp. if they take care of themselves. Make great lovers!
loser101 Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I am 36 (37 next month, bloody hell!) and I have dated men 21 - 40 range the last 5 years (before that I was with someone slightly older in an LTR). I wasn't concerned about age gaps and maturity on their part until recently because I travelled a lot and wasn't really looking for steady relationships. Of course it is flattering to me that men in their 20s find me attractive and enjoy my company - and that's mutual of course. I like the energy and vibe I get from those in their early 20s, I have many friends that are much younger than me because seeing them change, mature and develop over time is quite an experience. However, I find I click with men/people my age at a much deeper and more stable level. I think now that I am ready to settle I am going to take men from 30+ more seriously. Sex is great with young bucks because of their energy but I am a little tired of explaining how relationships work.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I am 36. I have dated 10 years younger and 12 years older. Ideally, I will date someone around my age. I want to talk about old tv shows and have them know wtf I'm talking about My current guy is 32.
stillafool Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 When I was 35 I was definitely into dating younger men (3-7 years younger) and ended up marrying one.
Touche Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I've always been attracted to, and dated, much older men than me. (over 10 years older.) The last time I was single, when I was 33, I decided I really wanted to date men a little closer to my own age. When I met my H, he was 39 (almost 40) and I was 33. He and I were (are) the closest in age of any man I've ever seriously dated.
MeMyself&I Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I just turned 37 and find myself, like a couple of the others posted, having men in their early to late twenties hitting on me.........frequently. I take good care of myself and look late 20's to 30ish though. I love the fun, humor and energy of younger guys. BUT like another post said. I don't understand the 20's generations ideas of dating. It seems they always just want to "hang out". My last boyfriend was 5 years younger and the last guy I dated was 12 years younger. I'm leaning toward meeting men my own age or a few years difference each way. I do admire a man that takes good care of himself and wants to be active and do fun, outdoor things. I also want an active sex life so I think that's what attracts me in the younger guys. BUT Hopefully, I'll find these qualities in a guy closer to my age; so I can also have the emotional maturity to go along with it.
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