Bells Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Being single is the BEST!!!! Why settle for one when I can have sooo many.. It's all about ME.. ME...ME... I can do whatever I want.. whenever I want... with whoever I want... I can have as many sexual partners as I want.. I can spend my money like I want.. (I'm a shopholic)... I can go on vacation and have fun ... I hate to sleep with someone else.. (I can't stand snoring).. My place is spotless..and it stays that way. I have the TV control all to myself.. and the closets.. Yeah, it's all about being selfish, though it tends to make me wonder about that person's relationship with other people like friends and family, too.
Els Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 There are plenty of women out there who have an agenda to take away my rights once I get sucked into a relationship with them. My radar is on. Nobody can pull the wool over my eyes unless I let them. Most of the time I let others deceive me because I chose to give them the benefit of the doubt. So I am a believer that nobody can deceive you unless let them. Once you get married and your wife takes away your rights don't go looking to the law to help you. Most judges will show favortism towards the woman in a divorce court case. Loveshack is not the most appropriate forum to get advice on if a man wants to keep his rights in a relationship. Roflmao, honestly, the way you talk reminds me more of a war veteran describing the horrific and traumatizing scenes he'd witnessed during his service. If that truly is how you equate marriage -- to a war zone, then staying single is certainly the best decision for you. It's good that you let the women know ahead, too.
stillafool Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Yeah, it's all about being selfish, though it tends to make me wonder about that person's relationship with other people like friends and family, too. Why is it selfish that Lizzie enjoys her single life? I would only think a person was selfish if they lived with someone and didn't share their time and material possessions. That's like when people say a woman is selfish for not having kids. How?
Lizzie60 Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Yeah, it's all about being selfish, though it tends to make me wonder about that person's relationship with other people like friends and family, too. Oh yeah.. well you'd be surprised.. I have had my 2 bestest friends for many many years.. (one for 54 years, and the other for 43 years). It's being selfish for ME.. cause I'm the most generous person on earth with the ones I love..
Bells Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Why is it selfish that Lizzie enjoys her single life? I would only think a person was selfish if they lived with someone and didn't share their time and material possessions. That's like when people say a woman is selfish for not having kids. How? Yeah, you do make a point. Now, I heard of men not desiring relationships....but it's kind of surprising when I hear a woman say it....perhaps it's for different reasons though?
Lindarose84 Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Also, that would mean you have issues as well. I tend to question people who don't like any kind of affection whatsoever. It seems to go much deeper than that. Anyhow, I desire an actual relationship, but marriage, I'm not so sure about these days. I don't have issues. I have preferences. Just like you may have a preference to cuddle, I have one not to. So how does that make me the defective? What's the rule that says "thou must cuddle to be normal in life?" My saying "I don't like to cuddle" isn't saying "I don't like any kind of affection whatsoever." It's specific to cuddling- it's just uncomfortable to me. Now, I like things like hugs, kisses, and from time to time, hand holding. Those are methods of showing affection, are they not?
Lizzie60 Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 You have a good point Linda.. I see people ... who can't stand being alone/single.. who desperately need someone to make them feel alive.. as having more issues than people who actually enjoy being single.. who do not rely on anyone else to be happy.
gypsy_nicky Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 You have a good point Linda.. I see people ... who can't stand being alone/single.. who desperately need someone to make them feel alive.. as having more issues than people who actually enjoy being single.. who do not rely on anyone else to be happy. your going in circles with this one. Both parties we can assume have issues. those who don't want to be tied down can also be said to have just as much issues.
Author justin180 Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 How can being single be great? The pain every night lying in bed alone is terrible. Everyone always says "enjoy the single life" thinkin' getting laid and having a girlfriend is easy. I'm 21 this year, and I've never had more than one date per woman. I can't even imagine how a date eventually turns into a relationship. I can't even imagine a woman wanting to call me or wanting to see me or being hot for me. Well I'm eating a half gallon of ice cream as we speak. The entire container will be gone by the end of today. This is a good example of why being single is great. I'm having fun eating all the ice cream I want without worrying about turning off a woman who thinks I eat too much.
Author justin180 Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 For the record I don't like to cuddle either. I'm not an affectionate person anymore like I was 5 years ago. I don't even hug family members or friends. I can't even remember the last time I hugged anybody. I don't think affection is essential to have a productive life or relationship.
Author justin180 Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 OP: Let's look at some of the words you've used to describe relationships and marriage. -control -communist -under her jurisdiction -tied down -control, control, control Those are just a few. Anyone who describes their relationship using the words and tone you have used does not know what a loving, mutually exclusive relationship is all about. I don't want to control my bf. I want to be able to enjoy being with my friends or travelling alone sometimes. Why would I stop him from doing the same? It also sounds like you were dominated in your last RL, and now you are coming onto LS sounding like the "Big Man". I won't let her do this to me, I won't let her do that. No woman is going to control me. Yet I'm willing to bet that is exactly what happened in your last RL. You were a doormat and did not stand up for your needs. I think it is a good idea for you to be single for a while. And I do really respect the fact that you are upfront about it. Honesty is important. You don't want to lie to people. Many people have healthy RL's and you can too if you want it someday. If not, then keep on keepin' on. That's just the point. Once I'm ready to not stand up for my rights then I'll enter a relationship again.
cn283 Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 That's just the point. Once I'm ready to not stand up for my rights then I'll enter a relationship again. Either you were horribly traumatized by your last relationship, or just fishing for controversy Justin. Relationships aren't about women controlling men (at least not healthy ones) and you equating being in a relationship with a total surrender of your happiness is a pretty bleak view. I feel sorry for you either way. Being single is awesome, as many people on here agree. But you keep pushing the conversation to this "women = police state" mentality, which is weird.
kizik Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Either you were horribly traumatized by your last relationship, or just fishing for controversy I'm getting the vibe that it's both.
knaveman Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 "women = police state" Watch out, Big Sister is watching.
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