playlislay Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Hey loveshackers! Just a little update from moi about my friend becoming my f*Ck buddy after my split with my bf. I had concerns over how I should act with him when we are in this situation i.e. do/can we cuddle or be intimate beyond sex? Many of you said no to cuddling, holding hands etc, leave it as sex and sex only. To my suprise I saw him at a local bar last night due to changes in my plans. We ended the night by holding hands, getting a cab back to his, had sex and cuddled until the morning. Now I know many of you will say that he may want more than just sex, but I know that he doesnt-which is great! Although I am aware that some fbuddies may want more in time, Im going to make sure that I keep my ears and eyes open for any signs that him or myself are falling for one-another. Watch this space.............. ;O)
TaraMaiden Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Excuse me, but where would the harm be if you did start falling in love with one another? Would that not be preferable to being regarded merely as a body that is useful for penetrating and ejaculating into? _/l\_
jayOG Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Excuse me, but where would the harm be if you did start falling in love with one another? Would that not be preferable to being regarded merely as a body that is useful for penetrating and ejaculating into? _/l\_ Time and emotional attachment... some people just aren't down for it. Of course sex always runs the risk of emotions crossing lines...
TaraMaiden Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I think that unless you are a "professional", you cannot have sex with another person without crossing some emotional line. Impersonal sexual partners do not cuddle and hold hands... they have sex, get up and leave. Does it sound as if the OP has not crossed any emotional line? I just do not see that myself. _/l\_
jayOG Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I think that unless you are a "professional", you cannot have sex with another person without crossing some emotional line. Impersonal sexual partners do not cuddle and hold hands... they have sex, get up and leave. Does it sound as if the OP has not crossed any emotional line? I just do not see that myself. _/l\_ Haha, no I agree. I don't think F Buddies are a great idea at all... I also find it boring not being able to be intimate with your partner or learning what pleases them and vice versa. Sex has always meant more to me that just porn... You have to look at it like a job. You go in, perform well, and get out(performing well might just mean holding hands, creates great tension, all part of sex). As long as both people remain professional it has a chance of working out even if both are intimate. I'm not diasgreeing that emotions are likely to cross lines or that they have already, but there is always a chance... And of course the possible emotional and/or physical attachement when they decide to call it quits might pose a problem... You have to be a stone cold killer to be doing what they are doing, but you never know.
LoveLace Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Let me get this right...so if you start to enjoy your time together more and the sex is good and cuddling is great, you are going to run away? Why not just let it be whatever it's going to be. If you are certain that you don't want something with potential to grow, you've already let it go too far beyond sex. If you don't want something with any emotional needs involved, then you have to tell him so...then you fk and go...repeat...fk and go!
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