Curious. Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Hi all, Newbie here looking for a bit of advice from people who know more than I do I'll try make this as short as possible... Known a girl for month or two, and at a party last week, we ended up walking to an empty park area, and found ourselves laying in each others arms chatting for about an hour. This was amazing, as she's super easy to be around. I didn't really expect it as we've only been friends, so 2 days after I asked her out & we went out the other night. She told me she's been messed around by a guy recently and isn't sure if she wants a relationship - so we agreed to go & just be casual about the evening. I didn't attempt anything 'date like' as I didn't want her to think I was pressuring her into a relationship - and she already knows I'm interested as I admitted that I was actually asking her out for a date, and not just as friends. Not really sure what to do next? I'm afraid to put any pressure on her, as that will just put her off altogether. Just let it be, continue with these casual get-togethers, and see where it leads?
Author Curious. Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 Stop dating completely. You're the rebound. We're not dating though - it was a simple night out to see a movie, akin to what 2 friends would do.
Admiral Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Stop dating completely. You're the rebound. LOL. Forget about this "rebound" stuff. People who tell you not to date DO NOT know what they are talking about. You need to kiss her next time you see her or you'll fall into the friend zone.
Author Curious. Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 LOL. Forget about this "rebound" stuff. People who tell you not to date DO NOT know what they are talking about. You need to kiss her next time you see her or you'll fall into the friend zone. Attempting to kiss her, soon after she's told me how she's skeptical of guys & relationships at the moment?
Author Curious. Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 Considering telling her how much I've enjoyed the time we've spent together recently, even though it hasn't been a date/relationship thing, and just seeing what she says. Good/Bad idea?
Admiral Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Attempting to kiss her, soon after she's told me how she's skeptical of guys & relationships at the moment? Yes. You don't have to be in a relationship. You can date her, AND date other women at the same time. If you don't escalate things, she'll put you in the friendzone. She is a woman, and women want physical contact and sex. And don't ask if you can kiss her. Wait for the right moment. Considering telling her how much I've enjoyed the time we've spent together recently, even though it hasn't been a date/relationship thing, and just seeing what she says. Good/Bad idea? Probably shouldn't do that, you want her to wonder just how much you like her.
D-Lish Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Just play it cool. I wouldn't disclose that you enjoy spending time with her just yet. Let things progress naturally. Now is the time to be a bit mysterious. Don't be overly available.
Author Curious. Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 OK so I'll hold off on the 'express my feelings' conversation. It's just that the other night was actually the first time we've spent time together alone - and it was so casual that it was anything but a date. I think thats my worry....
Author Curious. Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 Actually, why is it I don't want to tell her how much I enjoy her company?
Admiral Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Actually, why is it I don't want to tell her how much I enjoy her company? If a woman knows you like her a lot, and she can have you at any time, she gets bored. Women want what they can't have. You to keep her wondering how much you like her. If she has to wonder, there's more adventure. You need to kiss her. That shows you're enjoying her company.
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