sean22 Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 How do i move on from an ex that's in my circle of friends? I made the mistake of going out with a good friend and now i think i have lost her. She broke up with me because she is going overseas in about a months time and she said the relationship was putting to much pressure on her and she wanted to be just friends. Anyway since she said she wanted to be 'friends', she hasnt started a conversation with me since and i can tell she just doesn't want to be around me anymore. She told my mate she had lost all feelings for me. Shes friends with my mates aswell so she usually comes out when we go out aswell. Ive been trying to make an effort and show that i still want to be friends but she just avoids me. Last night we were about to go out as a group as usual and she told one of mates she didnt want to go anymore as soon as she knew i was going. I asked my mate why and he said that she thinks it would be too awkward and doesnt feel like being watched. I didnt understand this because shes been coming out for like the last 2 weeks and she suddenly changed her mind. Although i think she found out i still like her, which i do, but i dont want a relationship again now that shes going overseas in a month and i dont think i have been watching her (not intentionally anyway). Can anyone help my i dont understand why me still having feelings for her would make her act like this.. could she think im going to do something? Ive given up trying to be friends with her now, it just isnt working. Im trying to decide whether just to try and avoid her now and move on or just talk to her and find out why shes so afraid about me liking her. The thing is i dont know what to do cos i see her too often to completely break contact. I know shes the one making this awkward.. all i ever did was like her, we didnt even get that invlolved. I think its her making things awkward, not me. My mate said something to do with me liking her is putting pressure on her.. and i think thats just all in her mind. Should i just talk to her and tell her that im not trying to make anything happen and that its too hard trying to be friends with someone that doesnt want to be around me (deep down i still want her back but i know its over) or just let it go and hope she realises herself. Shes going away in a month anyway i dont know what im so fussed about but its making things complicated. I think ive just been blabbering on that last paragraph.. sorry can anyone help me? what happened to being friends? was it a lie? could she still have feelings for me? (i think im about 98% sure she doesnt tho but could be wrong)
Meaplus3 Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Well it's tough when you have the same friend's. How about trying to meet with your friend's when she's not around? Simply explain to them that in order to move on, you don't need to see or hear about her? Mea:)
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