xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Artist guy asked to make me Italian on sunday night. I think this constitutes a date, right? I'm a little confused because I know some of you had already told me that his interest level had been below sea level, so I took all of your advice, and I stopped contacting him. It's been a week since we last seen each other but we had talked once or twice whenever he's online. I know he has been really busy lately, going to his studio, painting, and getting ready for a gallery exhibition in June. But I found it surprising he even texted me tonight. So he asked me to teach me Italian on Sunday and told me to bring dessert. ( I think this is the part where a new batch of truffles come in). Please, I'm not looking to start any thread bashing ( you know who you are) I just find posting on LS a relief from normal daily life. I just need reassurance that I'm not someone he needs to fill up his time that's all. Because sometimes I do get this feeling like he's dating on the side.
amaysngrace Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 I think it's really special that he wants to cook dinner for you. That means he's trying hard to impress you.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 He wants you to come to his place and make you Italian food? Dude wants to get laid. Maybe you want that too. My experience has been that if the guy wants to make you dinner, and he hasn't taken you out yet, he wants to ****. If he is really interested in getting to know you, he will want to take you out first. I'm not trying to be negative, just passing on experience. He may be seeing other people. Not necessarily a bad thing. He may decide he likes you more than the other girls. Either way, keep your eyes open. He may be a good cook
Art_Critic Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 I think it's really special that he wants to cook dinner for you. That means he's trying hard to impress you. Either that or he wants to drug or get her drunk and have uninhibited sex with her while she is unconscious Seriously.. I think it is great he wants to make dinner.. good sign.. but remember when a guy makes dinner at his place that there is a high chance of the moves being put on atfer dinner.. for desert.. Not saying you can't just put him off if you aren't ready but expect it...
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 Well you were dating on the side too, no? Well yes, but it was one date. And I already told the guy I just think we're incompatible. So basically right now, I'm not really seeing anyone.
amaysngrace Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 You should find out if he's seeing anyone besides you before you sleep with him.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 He wants you to come to his place and make you Italian food? Dude wants to get laid. Maybe you want that too. My experience has been that if the guy wants to make you dinner, and he hasn't taken you out yet, he wants to ****. If he is really interested in getting to know you, he will want to take you out first. I'm not trying to be negative, just passing on experience. He may be seeing other people. Not necessarily a bad thing. He may decide he likes you more than the other girls. Either way, keep your eyes open. He may be a good cook Actually Cherry I forgot to add that I had already seen him the last two sundays, so basically I would think this would be like our third meeting/ date? I mean I don't know the specifics of what I should call our encounters, but we do " go out". Like he always take me out to eat ( he always pays) and we went to the Met last Sunday. So no, I wouldn't think that he would only be doing this for sex? hahaha i dk
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 You should find out if he's seeing anyone besides you before you sleep with him. I'm actually very strict on the act itself. No I haven't had sex with him, despite us being really flirty with each other I think asking him out right would make me too nosy, because I know sometimes I tell myself I don't mind who he may or may not be seeing, but at the same time, there's this nagging feeling. I also know I shouldn't be complaining since I was seeing someone else before, so I guess in a way we're even. I won't bring up the topic of sex, nor will I have sex with him unless I know for sure that it's something we really wanted. I think if he was really interested in me, possibly if we're still in contact a month from now, then yes, sex would be a a possibility.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Actually Cherry I forgot to add that I had already seen him the last two sundays, so basically I would think this would be like our third meeting/ date? I mean I don't know the specifics of what I should call our encounters, but we do " go out". Like he always take me out to eat ( he always pays) and we went to the Met last Sunday. So no, I wouldn't think that he would only be doing this for sex? hahaha i dk Ok, thanks for the info. That sounds more promising. I say go for it. Just keep in mind that he may be seeing other people so you don't get too attached at this point. Have fun, be your fun, cool, self, and know that even if he is seeing others they may not be that great. Did you see the photo exhibit with the models at the Met? That sounded pretty cool...
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 Either that or he wants to drug or get her drunk and have uninhibited sex with her while she is unconscious Seriously.. I think it is great he wants to make dinner.. good sign.. but remember when a guy makes dinner at his place that there is a high chance of the moves being put on atfer dinner.. for desert.. Not saying you can't just put him off if you aren't ready but expect it... Lol don't worry AC, I've been to his place before. He's not the type to force things on someone. He actually does respect my space, which is one thing I like about him. We can sleep together and not actually have sex.
amaysngrace Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Just don't make yourself too available. You did good by not contacting him you know? Maybe you think he sees other people because he didn't call you all week? That's not necessarily true. He may just be playing it cool. Play cool back.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 Ok, thanks for the info. That sounds more promising. I say go for it. Just keep in mind that he may be seeing other people so you don't get too attached at this point. Have fun, be your fun, cool, self, and know that even if he is seeing others they may not be that great. Did you see the photo exhibit with the models at the Met? That sounded pretty cool... Thanks for your encouragements. I find that if I busy myself with other things, such as my friends and going to the gym, I'm less likely to think about him during the week. For a while back, I actually thought i was going to fall for him.. That would be a train wreck for sure. But I like things right now, it does seem like he's initiating things which I find to be really great because that shows he actually does enjoy my company right?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 Just don't make yourself too available. You did good by not contacting him you know? Maybe you think he sees other people because he didn't call you all week? That's not necessarily true. He may just be playing it cool. Play cool back. Yes, that was exactly what I had thought. But I forgot to give him the benefit of the doubt ( everyone deserves a chance) and just assumed things. I actually figured it's because he's trying to get his paintings done. He has around 4-5 commissions for the next 4 weeks and he's at his studio from dawn till 6 at night, so I can understand his need to stay focused on his artwork. Which I might are pretty amazing.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Yeah, it does sound like he enjoys your company. Have fun and have confidence in yourself. There is nothing more appealing than that
BubblyPopcorn Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Well as long as he's not like the Russian with Carrie on SITC
amaysngrace Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Good attitude. He's busy. And he's still making you dinner. And he called you a couple of days before. He didn't wait until the last minute. It all sounds really good to me.
Trialbyfire Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 xpaper, you know what I think. Just be careful investing in this guy. If you're looking for some casual fun, he should be okay.
amaysngrace Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 And if you're looking for a meaningful relationship this just may be the start of it.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 xpaper, you know what I think. Just be careful investing in this guy. If you're looking for some casual fun, he should be okay. Yes, i do TBF. Thank you for your concern. I'm definitely approaching this with caution. And if you're looking for a meaningful relationship this just may be the start of it. Amay, I think that would definitely be jumping the gun. He could after sunday, just stopped contacting me all of a sudden. The future is so uncertain and I really don't want to pin all my hopes on him, and have him reject me. I'll make tentative moves to see if he'll reciprocate, and like everyone says, I absolutely believe as well that if a guy is interested, he will pursue further.
amaysngrace Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Amay, I think that would definitely be jumping the gun. He could after sunday, just stopped contacting me all of a sudden. The future is so uncertain and I really don't want to pin all my hopes on him, and have him reject me. I'll make tentative moves to see if he'll reciprocate, and like everyone says, I absolutely believe as well that if a guy is interested, he will pursue further. Why does having a relationship make you think it's the be all or end all of your existence? I thought having a relationship was all about hanging out with someone who's company you enjoy. For today. You seem to put a lot of pressure on yourself. It's really not necessary.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 Why does having a relationship make you think it's the be all or end all of your existence? I thought having a relationship was all about hanging out with someone who's company you enjoy. For today. You seem to put a lot of pressure on yourself. It's really not necessary. Because in all honesty, I'm jinxed. I had this happen to me in the past, where if I told a guy I liked him, he completely disappeared on me. Remember I wrote I had texted him I liked him? I didn't get a single reply back from him, and when I finally did sort things out with him ( over aim) I had to make it seem like I drunk texted him.
kizik Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Why does having a relationship make you think it's the be all or end all of your existence? Because papercut equates her self-worth to the amount of attention that men give her. She admitted as much in another thread. When she reads this, she's gonna think I'm being mean. I'm not. It truly concerns me when people are like this. They're doing nothing to help themselves; they're only looking for external validation to fill an inner lack. The problem is, no relationship can ever compensate for self-dissatisfaction. And when people live like that, they hurt themselves and those around them.
amaysngrace Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Because in all honesty, I'm jinxed. I had this happen to me in the past, where if I told a guy I liked him, he completely disappeared on me. Remember I wrote I had texted him I liked him? I didn't get a single reply back from him, and when I finally did sort things out with him ( over aim) I had to make it seem like I drunk texted him. So you lied to him again? O lord. Why not just be honest? If you like him so what? How is that a bad thing? I mean unless he's a creep or treats you like crap what is the harm in liking someone? I don't understand.
Girlygirl1977 Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 I'm a little confused - you gave the guy a blow job last week and now you are saying you didn't have sex yet?! wow:confused:
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