JamesC Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 I could write so much, I will do my best to keep it short. Basically I'm 27, live with parents, currently unemployed, have a fair amount of social anxiety, and rarely have luck with the ladies. I'm not some weird social outcast, just a bit shy, rarely meet girls cause I've made myself unavailable. Before I often let my shyness overtake me and generally would be very stand-offish(not on purpose, just a stupid response to hide my shyness I guess). Any girl I open up to generally likes me as a friend if nothing else. I met a girl randomly online in a game, we were barely friends, just talked a few times. Well somehow I flirted with this girl, which I never do with online girls. Turns out she lives fairly close to me and during our second flirty conversation I asked her for her phone number and she gave it. We talked about how we should hang out, she seems very interested. She asked for my email and sent me a picture of her and shes definitely attractive. I've been a lurker here for a while, I've read how guys say to talk to women when they are interested, and I just instinctively stuck to that, being pretty forward and very flirty. I think I did a good job. Now I'm telling myself to call her and make plans for a date asap. I'm just so worried about my "baggage". I guess I would just love to hear anyone's thoughts about any of this. The 1 thing I won't do is mislead her. What should I do?
alphamale Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 I guess I would just love to hear anyone's thoughts about any of this. The 1 thing I won't do is mislead her. What should I do? dude, you need professional psychiatric or psycholoigcal help that cannot be obtained here
amaysngrace Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Just be honest. If she likes you she likes you. What baggage are you talking about? No job and living at home? It won't bother her that you're a gamer since you met her on a game. You can be indirect while still being honest. A lot of people are unemployed and had to move back in with their families. That's kind of not so abnormal right now. You picked a good time to have baggage. If she likes you she won't judge.
Admiral Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Of course you can still date. Just don't complain or sound boring.
spookie Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 You can, but IMO it's pretty hard to form a healthy R when you have no self esteem. Just like it's hard to have self esteem when you're unemployed and living with your parents. What are you doing to make your life better?
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