brokensoulzzz Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 where to begin, my commonlaw wife ended our 12 years 3 kids relationship, i was devastated, took to long to accept it, went to see a lawyer came home to police and spent 5 days in jail with a whack of allegations, now i am fighting criminal charges, which are false, lost my 'LIFE', and cant communicate with ex about house kids finances, than she draws up a separation agreement, basically raping me of everything, kids,house finances...i am under basic house arrest until trial, i miss my kids this hurts the most right now, and the love of my life is single and dating coworkers of hers...im holding it together but cracking inside, HOW COME I STILL HAVE LOVE FOR HER...WHY..WHY.WHY
webmuse Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 let's see 12 years.. is it love or habit? .. I'm starting to believe some of us (including me) are having a hard time differentating between the two.
Admiral Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 I can't really offer any advice without more detail. But this relationship should have been ended sooner. You ALWAYS need a pre nup.
mark982 Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 don't sign a damn thing till you see a lawyer,she can write up anything she wants,that don't mean *****
delajoonal Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 brokensoulzzz... sorry for this horrific nightmare you are living. i know the pain of so many years..mine is/was 13 years, H ended it... believe ME, as time goes by you stop questioning WHY and start questioning "how much longer before i can get away from this person?" about the legal issues... this is from my own 'homework"... i live in california, so i am not sure where you are or how YOUR laws apply? here, my problem was i could NOT make stbxh leave our marital home because we had NO violence, no police records, etc...we just never hit each other...so the judge said we had to tough it out and H could stay in our home... so, here is what i am thinking, maybe your wife also did some homework, found out she could NOT make you leave and also maybe knowing you would put up a fight and just sleep in another room or couch it.. so she made up a bunch of alligations so the law could get involved and Viola`...you now are kicked out of your marital home! ok, so this is just a huge MAYBE, i am NOT accusing her or anyone of anything...just stating what i have learned by california law and the legalities of making the cheating spouse leave, etc. good luck..truly:(
Loxx Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 let's see 12 years.. is it love or habit? .. I'm starting to believe some of us (including me) are having a hard time differentating between the two. This is so so true. Time will help you seperate them, especially once you get used to your new routines, then you can really see what emotions were there.
Author brokensoulzzz Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 thx, i felt all alone , that no one else feels like this, but after reading on this site, it is comforting that im not alone, thx...
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