How important is it to be able to have deep or intellectual conversations with an SO?

[Storyrider]

My mind can only be turned on by a quick intellect. And sometimes my mind really craves that. But there are other of times I'd rather be stimulated in a different way, where talking is more of a hindrance than a help.

 

That being said, the most desirable conversationalist is versatile and not only understands the implications of String Theory but also has seen all the episodes of Gilligan's Island.

[jayOG]

I can't definitively say a 10, but would absolutely love it if I could have deep conversation with a S/O. Whether it be an intellectual analysis of something specific or just intelligent conversation. Conversations tell a lot about the psychology of a person and that is the main reason why I enjoy it.

 

But an intelligent person trumps being able to have specific conversations of scholarly subject. If they take several classes they are able to keep pace with the best of them...

 

What it comes down to is both physical and mental compatibility. Since I'm "smart" I need to be with someone smart...

[Tizzy]

As smart as I think I am, I still find I generally underestimate my intelligence.

 

Lol, love this!!

 

For me, intellectual/deep convo every now and then is a must. Even if it's one-sided and I'm listening to my guy tell me about something I know or care nothing about, just hearing someone speak intelligently about stuff turns me on :-) Shows they have the capacity to think.

 

With that said, if all a guy does is try to have deep/intellectual conversations, that can turn boring very quick. I once met a guy who was a scholar and working towards his PhD and we went out a couple of times. Incredibly nice guy but completely incapable of light banter. Any jokes I made either went completely over his head or he just didn't care for them. I found it really hard to build a comfortable rapport with him. A good balance b/w light and heavy convo is what works for me.

[neowulf]

My ex of 6 years was by far the most interesting girl I've ever dated.

 

We talked about anything and everything, yet she'd always come out with a point of view I hadn't considered, or an amazing bit of trivia I hadn't heard before.

 

She was one of the few people I could talk to for hours on end and never get bored.

 

For me, that meeting of minds was the basis of mutal respect between us.

 

I suppose it's different for every person.

[BoredPerson]

No, intellectual discussions with women I want to date are boring.

 

Just talking is fine, but what in gods name is a 'deep or intellectual conversation'. Are we going to be discussing advance physics ? Because I don't know any of that, but I'd sure like to learn.