Poncho Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 I've been talking to this girl for a couple of months now. We did nothing but text and talk on the phone for the first month. We get along great, our kids like each other and they like us. We've kind of talked about seeing what happens. We haven't gotten a chance to go out much with just us. The kids have been around most of the time. To me it seems like she wants to take things slowly. Anyways, I'm just wondering when the right time would be to ask her to be my GF or whatever. I'm bad at this part of getting a relationship going. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Admiral Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 I've been talking to this girl for a couple of months now. We did nothing but text and talk on the phone for the first month. We get along great, our kids like each other and they like us. We've kind of talked about seeing what happens. We haven't gotten a chance to go out much with just us. The kids have been around most of the time. To me it seems like she wants to take things slowly. Anyways, I'm just wondering when the right time would be to ask her to be my GF or whatever. I'm bad at this part of getting a relationship going. Any advice would be much appreciated. This isn't a relationship at the moment. You haven't even kissed. And you don't ask her to be your girlfriend, it's supposed to be a smooth, natural transition.
Author Poncho Posted May 8, 2009 Author Posted May 8, 2009 I've given her a little peck on the lips, that's it though. I'm trying to play it cool but suck at it, lol.
Admiral Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 I've given her a little peck on the lips, that's it though. I'm trying to play it cool but suck at it, lol. At the moment you aren't really different to any other man she has dated. You need to step things up before you even think about going exclusive with her.
Mycroft Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Step things up how? Take her out on dates. Like the other poster said, smooth transition. Go out and get to know each other without your kids distracting you.
Admiral Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Step things up how? Actually date her properly. Get things physical.
yeex Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Of course it is different for different people, but generally I would not think about the word girlfriend until you have been getting more physical for at least three months and seeing how her interest level progresses. Any sooner than that is dating and you should treat it as such. Don't want to scare them away by taking things too fast.
Admiral Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Of course it is different for different people, but generally I would not think about the word girlfriend until you have been getting more physical for at least three months and seeing how her interest level progresses. This is good. You are nowhere near being boyfriend/girlfriend at the moment. You're way too desperate to get a girlfriend.
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