Cora Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Do you ever get to the point where you just feel like giving up and not trying anymore? Like what's the point? That's kind of how i'm feeling now. Once my last relationship ended after I found out he was lying to me the whole time it really made me think about things and who can you really trust? I always wondered how it would feel to be in a relationship where the other person actually loved you in return. Now that I look back I really don't consider my last relationship a relationship because it was all a lie. It was more of him just stringing me along while he pursued his now fiancee then totally disappearing on me. Other than that I have only dated. My dates only seem to make it to the third one though before they become uninterested. I look at all my friends who appear to be happy...they are either all married or in a committed long term relationship. It's okay being single. Sometimes it's nice not having to worry about the stresses that can come with a relationship but sometimes I would like to at least experience one whether it be short or long term. Then I think do I really want to deal with the heartbreak of it ending after becoming emotionally attached? It's either you continue being lonely or take a chance and risk having your heart broken again. Maybe I'm just having a bad week. I'm just venting really I guess. No real point to this thread. Sometimes you just wonder when that glimmer of hope will return. Until then I guess you just have to keep moving along.
Rollercoasterr Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 The second I gave up because I was so unhappy with the way things were going in my life, Mathew walked back into it. But trust me, I know how you feel girl.
wuggle Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Do you ever get to the point where you just feel like giving up and not trying anymore? Yep, sure most people on this site have felt like that at one time or another. but sometimes I would like to at least experience one whether it be short or long term. And I'm sure you will Then I think do I really want to deal with the heartbreak of it ending after becoming emotionally attached? It's either you continue being lonely or take a chance and risk having your heart broken again. Always take a chance, if you don't you'd be missing the best bits that life has to offer just to avoid the bad bits. Life isn't supposed to be safe and predictable, take the downs and work through them and Revel in the ups. You can always use the memory of the ups to help you get through the downs.
EmperorR Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 No Risk No Reward, nothing in life is certain, if you get fired from your job are you going to be scared to find another job and work again? I'm in the same position as you, sometimes I tell myself why?
Trialbyfire Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 Cora, it's not always easy to find someone compatible. Add in being attracted and both parties being emotionally available and single, and it becomes a challenge. If you have a grocery list of needs and wants, you've now reduced your dating pool by 95%. Having said all that, lightening does strike and for me, it strikes when I either least want or expect it! Sometimes, it literally rains men, at the strangest of times. So...if you feel like it's an impossibility, it will be impossible, due to unrealized body language and vibes given out. The best way to get out of this type of funk, is to take a dating strike. Stop looking for "the one" or even a relationship and start building up the reserves inside of you. You'll know when you feel strong and positive again and are ready to take another hit, if necessary. Trying too soon, after something as devastating as what happened with your ex, can only be counterproductive. Having said all that, when you're strong and positive again, date lightly for a little while. This can help to get you back into the swing of things, after your dating strike is over.
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