CaliGuy Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Big hint: It wasn't me. Yep, it's the now "23" year old at work. We had a conversation today because her sister is sick and she had to take a few days off work (my guess is that was partly true, that she took a couple days to move out of his apartment). Apparently he told her that he wanted his life back. And she told me "You were right about everything you said about him". Sometimes I hate being right because I don't wish any ill will on anyone. As for taking her back, she hasn't even hinted at it (nor do I expect it) but even if she did, I would feel like I landed in second place. And I don't want to be second place in anyone's life, ya know? We'll see what happens. This is all fresh so I don't expect her to come running to me, if she even does at all. I know what the right thing to do is here, I'm just (yet again) finding it hard to take my own advice.
amaysngrace Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 So who is this? That chick you kissed in the bar that night?
foxh1234 Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Big hint: It wasn't me. Yep, it's the now "23" year old at work. We had a conversation today because her sister is sick and she had to take a few days off work (my guess is that was partly true, that she took a couple days to move out of his apartment). Apparently he told her that he wanted his life back. And she told me "You were right about everything you said about him". Sometimes I hate being right because I don't wish any ill will on anyone. As for taking her back, she hasn't even hinted at it (nor do I expect it) but even if she did, I would feel like I landed in second place. And I don't want to be second place in anyone's life, ya know? We'll see what happens. This is all fresh so I don't expect her to come running to me, if she even does at all. I know what the right thing to do is here, I'm just (yet again) finding it hard to take my own advice. Hey CG, I had a funny feeling this would happen after reading all you posted about her. If she does come knocking, take your own advice and take it really slow. Think about all that has happened and where you are in life right now. I do believe in second chances, but it should take alot of work and time. Keep us updated and good luck man.
amaysngrace Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Hey CG, I had a funny feeling this would happen after reading all you posted about her. oops...I'm thinking of the wrong girl.
Trialbyfire Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 You know what to do here, Cali. Ensure you wear a silver cross on a necklace of garlic to work, on a daily basis. Keep a sharpened wooden stake, close at hand. She's coming for you, I can smell it.
BCCA Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 CaliGuy, that situation always leaves you with a million dollar question: If she did come back, is it because youre awesome or because she just got dumped? So hard because you just never know, but I agree - you would obviously be playing second fiddle. She DID chose him over you...bleh, I hate these prediciments! Just walk softly, my man. You know what to do!
amaysngrace Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 I'm confused. Is this the engaged girl? I still get one more guess...two really because I guessed the same person twice. I think. Anyway you are a rebound. No matter who it is. So just screw her brains out.
Author CaliGuy Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I am keeping them all in my mind. She has a long way to get over this guy, but rest assured, it's over. I'm confused. Is this the engaged girl? I still get one more guess...two really because I guessed the same person twice. I think. Anyway you are a rebound. No matter who it is. So just screw her brains out. No, the one at the gym is the one you are thinking of. She broke it off a second time with her fiance and is now dating a co-worker at the gym. Funny thing....caught her staring at me on the eliptical the other day, haha. They always come sniffing around eventually eh?
Biker2007 Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 CG, I know it's easier to give advice than take it... Your words, "Never make someone a priority that considers you an option" have stuck w/ me. If the 23 yr old comes knocking, remember those words. Whatever happens, good luck.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 God you meet some flakey women huh caliguy? lol. Oh well onwards and upwards.
Author CaliGuy Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 CG, I know it's easier to give advice than take it... Your words, "Never make someone a priority that considers you an option" have stuck w/ me. If the 23 yr old comes knocking, remember those words. Whatever happens, good luck. Thanks. I already told her, I will never accept being "second place" in someone's life. She knows this well.... Next! keep the line moving! Semper Fi, Gunny! God you meet some flakey women huh caliguy? lol. Oh well onwards and upwards. Yes, yes and yes. Always flaky, weird and just downright silly women who lack confidence and wouldn't know a good thing if it hit them in the head with a baseball bat
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