clintsgirl Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Let me give you a little backround, before i get into the issues. we've been together for 4 years, i have 1 son 6yrs old that lives with us, he has 2 children w/ his ex wife, daughter 10 lives with her mom, son 12 lives with us. we have no children together. From the beginning i've been very involved with his childrens lives, dancing, sports, school stuff etc. Always got along with his kids, expecially his daughter, one cause shes a girl and i dont have one,and 2 she's a girly girl just like me. We only see her every other weekend. I really dont have any problems with her, shes not perfect, but we get along. As for his son, that is a different matter. He has lived with us since he has been 10, for the first 6 months it was pretty good. But over the past couple years and hasnt been. I understand he is hitting puberty and things are going on with him, but the problems now are having his dad and i argue constantly. His son has always been a talker, talks constantly, mostly about nothing, and most of the time when you are busy consentrating, he can never just sit there, mouth has to constantly be running. Which now is starting to drive me nuts, it drives his dad nuts too. So now i'm just ignoring him, and when he does go on a non stop talking binge, i keep doing whatever i was doing and ignore. I feel bad while doing it, but other then telling him to "SHUT UP", which i dont do, i just ignore. Now the arguing begins.... I'm not his mom, nor do i want to be. But i feel you live under my roof, i make dinner, do your laundry, buy your clothes, etc, i'm not mean to you, i do not yell, or treat you like crap. The only chore his has to do in our home is take out the trash, which you would think we just asked him to mow 20 acres. He has xbox, labtop, cell phone, cable, he really has a good life over here. The other day i was making a huge dinner, i was using every counter space possible. He came out into the kitchen with paper/markers, wanting to draw, he moves some of my stuff over and proceds to draw. I ask him nicely to do it somewhere else, cause i need all the space possible to cook dinner. He decides to argue with me about it, i really want to scream at him, but i control myself. he walks away and goes to complain to his dad. which now that is the new trend, everytime i ask him to do something (which is simple, putting away your clothes i just washed and folded, stop wearing the same sweatshirt 3 days in a row) he acts like i'm the devil. It doesnt hurt my feelings it makes me angry, and i know this is wrong, and i wish i didnt have these feelings, but it really makes me not like him the way he acts. He will act tuff and cocky, all the time around the house, but he really is a big baby. Which really upsets his dad, he cries about everything, i mean everything. He is starting to be mean to my son, just cause its someone to pick on that is younger then him. His dad now believes i'm a "smart ass" and "rude" to his son, and his son is not comfortable here. I'm not rude, I'm more like fide up. I'm a extremely nice and giving person (of course i have my moments) but i take care of his child, his mom doesnt. His dad doesnt even see half the things he says or the way he acts towards me. I know i'm the adult, and i need to act like one. Which i do, but i feel like i shouldnt have to be overly cheery with a child, that doesnt give me the same repect, and half the time he makes up stuff to go bitch at his dad about. Pretty much if i'm not buying this child something new, or if i dont ask him to do something, or if i just not say anything when he is doing something wrong or not following the rules, i'm okay in everyones book. If his dad sees it (which isnt to often) he does take care of it. And if i see that he did something wrong, i dont even want to go to his dad anymore, cause he will say i'm picking on him. But of course when my 6 yr old doesnt following a rule, his dad and him will be the first one to complain about it and i need to fix it right that second. Or if my son crys or is upset, again he is 6, if he's in trouble or doesnt get what he wants, his dad will be the first one to say i need to teach him to man up, and not to cry etc. But mind you his son is 12, and will cry about anything, and its not just tears, its like his whole famliy got murdered in front of him. I dont know what to do?!?! How can a 12 yr drive me crazy?!?!
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