dreamergrl Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 So yesterday two things happened. Please keep in mind, I wasn't ready for either of these too happen. One, I get asked out for a drink by a very attractive guy. I haven't been out in a while, so I figure, what could a drink hurt?? It didn't either, I had lots of fun, he has a very warm personality. Now I wasn't looking for a guy. At all. That was not the point of this going out for a drink. In fact, I paid for my own and everything. However, he's interested in me. Also yesterday, old new guy that took me too the zoo got in contact with me. He still wants to date me. I've been single for a freaking week, and guys are coming out of the woodwork. I don't want to jump into anything, rush anything, make anyone a rebound. But these are both guys I'd consider dating under normal circumstances. I can't even believe this is happening, because I never get two guys interested in me at once, both that I'd be interested in as well. I'm not sure what to do. Oh, by the way, I've still been maintaining No Contact with ex.
boldjack Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Are you kidding me? If your avatar is any indication, you are wicked cute!! Why wouldn't men want to date you? BTW, dating isn't a relationship. Go out with BOTH of them and have some fun!! Just don't get exclusive until YOU are ready. Enjoy life!!
northstar1 Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 So yesterday two things happened. Please keep in mind, I wasn't ready for either of these too happen. One, I get asked out for a drink by a very attractive guy. I haven't been out in a while, so I figure, what could a drink hurt?? It didn't either, I had lots of fun, he has a very warm personality. Now I wasn't looking for a guy. At all. That was not the point of this going out for a drink. In fact, I paid for my own and everything. However, he's interested in me. Also yesterday, old new guy that took me too the zoo got in contact with me. He still wants to date me. I've been single for a freaking week, and guys are coming out of the woodwork. I don't want to jump into anything, rush anything, make anyone a rebound. But these are both guys I'd consider dating under normal circumstances. I can't even believe this is happening, because I never get two guys interested in me at once, both that I'd be interested in as well. I'm not sure what to do. Oh, by the way, I've still been maintaining No Contact with ex. Excellent! Take it slow, get to know one/both before you get into a relationship
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 So yesterday two things happened. Please keep in mind, I wasn't ready for either of these too happen. One, I get asked out for a drink by a very attractive guy. I haven't been out in a while, so I figure, what could a drink hurt?? It didn't either, I had lots of fun, he has a very warm personality. Now I wasn't looking for a guy. At all. That was not the point of this going out for a drink. In fact, I paid for my own and everything. However, he's interested in me. Also yesterday, old new guy that took me too the zoo got in contact with me. He still wants to date me. I've been single for a freaking week, and guys are coming out of the woodwork. I don't want to jump into anything, rush anything, make anyone a rebound. But these are both guys I'd consider dating under normal circumstances. I can't even believe this is happening, because I never get two guys interested in me at once, both that I'd be interested in as well. I'm not sure what to do. Oh, by the way, I've still been maintaining No Contact with ex. Date them both.... just delay anything physical until you get a clear picture of which one is a better fit for you! That should be easy because you can tell them that you want to wait a month or so before getting really serious about anything... you just got out of a relationship! Yeah! Good things happen to good people!
IcemanJB Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Wow if there were any dating "problem" I'd like to have, it would be having to chose between two girls that were interested in me. I agree with the statement of going on very casual dates with both of them. I would delay anything physical with either of them until you've narrowed it down to one. But really, this is a pretty good situation, way to go!
Kamille Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 How fun Dreamer! Maybe this is the perfect opportunity for you: put your well-being first, no matter what you choose to do. And have fun and enjoy!
carhill Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 TGIF. Sounds like a good weekend ahead for you, dreamergrl. Props! Tip: When you feel those positive feelings, keep them within you and resist placing them on any one person. Your gift is sharing them, not placing them. Visualize that difference. It keeps the energy within you. Hence, you can share it with any man, or none at all...
Star Gazer Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 I'm not surprised. I see no harm in just going for it, with the flow, that is. It's not exactly like you're rebounding, as your last "relationship" wasn't that long. I went from an ******* straight into my current, wonderful relationship. What have you got to lose??
Ruby Slippers Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 See what happens when you do the right thing? Wooooo!
donnamaybe Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Good for you girl! Yes, date them both, but make sure neither thinks they are exclusive with you. Honesty is a good thing! Have fun!!!
Author dreamergrl Posted May 8, 2009 Author Posted May 8, 2009 I think I forgot to mention that new guy that I went out with last night, he kissed me at the end of the night. Oh and I kissed him back. And oh was it a kiss! He also sent me a short but sweet email this morning, telling me how much fun he had, how he wants to see me again for sure, and to have a great day at work. Man, I have never dated two guys at once. I feel kind of guilty. Old/New guy wants to see me this weekend. And I think new guy wants to see me again tonight. There's not going to be enough dreamr to go around.
northstar1 Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 I think I forgot to mention that new guy that I went out with last night, he kissed me at the end of the night. Oh and I kissed him back. And oh was it a kiss! He also sent me a short but sweet email this morning, telling me how much fun he had, how he wants to see me again for sure, and to have a great day at work. Man, I have never dated two guys at once. I feel kind of guilty. Old/New guy wants to see me this weekend. And I think new guy wants to see me again tonight. There's not going to be enough dreamr to go around. GO SLOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Repeat, go slow Take your time to get to know them. I don't want to hear in a week that you are 'in a relationship' with one of them.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 8, 2009 Author Posted May 8, 2009 GO SLOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Repeat, go slow Take your time to get to know them. I don't want to hear in a week that you are 'in a relationship' with one of them. I know, I know. This is hard, I'm extremely attracted to both. It's why I wasn't sure if it was a good idea to be seeing either of them, much less both of them at the same time.
northstar1 Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 I know, I know. This is hard, I'm extremely attracted to both. It's why I wasn't sure if it was a good idea to be seeing either of them, much less both of them at the same time. That is dating my dear. Just keep a good perspective. Go out with each one a few times, keep it casual. And then after a few weeks or a month of casually seeing both, then determine who you find a better mesh with. Don't stress, just enjoy it.
Chocolat Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Are you kidding me? If your avatar is any indication, you are wicked cute!! Why wouldn't men want to date you? BTW, dating isn't a relationship. Go out with BOTH of them and have some fun!! Just don't get exclusive until YOU are ready. Enjoy life!! Huge ditto to this!! Have FUN.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Totally agree. Sloooooooow it down. Get to know them both before you even consider getting serious with either of them.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 8, 2009 Author Posted May 8, 2009 Well tonight new guy wants to see me for a bit. So we're going to watch a movie. I am taking things sloooow. I'm not trying to rush anything. The kiss just kind of happened, I wasn't expecting it. I have told him I don't want to move to fast. So I'm setting boundaries. I'm suppose to see old new guy tomorrow. We'll see how the weekend goes. I'm going to be so worn out. It's been a long time since I've had so much to do!
IcemanJB Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Have fun! Someone in WI has to make up for my lack of action recently.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 TGIF. Sounds like a good weekend ahead for you, dreamergrl. Props! Tip: When you feel those positive feelings, keep them within you and resist placing them on any one person. Your gift is sharing them, not placing them. Visualize that difference. It keeps the energy within you. Hence, you can share it with any man, or none at all... Agreed! When it rains, it pours
Land Shark Posted May 9, 2009 Posted May 9, 2009 I am taking things sloooow. I'm not trying to rush anything. The kiss just kind of happened, I wasn't expecting it. I have told him I don't want to move to fast. So I'm setting boundaries. I've heard that before. "Slow" generally means it takes an extra ten minutes to get the bra unsnapped. I'm guessing you end up not having any idea how the movie ended.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 9, 2009 Author Posted May 9, 2009 Well.. here's a little up date. I went out with new guy last night. Had fun! I had a lot of fun actually. He's very easy to be around. I laugh a lot. Still keeping things at a slower pace. No, my bra didn't come unsnapped for whoever said that.. Was suppose to hang out with new old guy today, but haven't heard from him since the other day. We'll see what happens.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 DG - awesome! I wouldn't consider you rebounding. As SG said, the last R wasn't that long. Maybe having two guys around is just what you need to keep you from moving too fast into a new R with one of these guys. See them both equally and make sure that you get plenty of dreamergrl time to yourself. That will make it a little easier to stay grounded in your feelings about the two. I know for me, it makes it a little harder to stay in touch with reality if I spend too much time with a guy. So make sure to get some alone time.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 Well I never heard from new-old guy today. Which honestly didn't bother me too much. I do know that I like new guy though. I am proud to say I'm keeping things at a good pace though. We watched movies together last night, and the kissy stuff started happening again. I didn't let things go far. I told him I wanted to take things slow. He told me he completely respected and understood, and still is showing desire to want to see me again. Letting me know when he has off so we can hang out. His work schedule clashes with mine half of the time, so even if I wanted to spend too much time with him, it's not possible. All good things I think
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