heartbrokenxxxx Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 i have a previous thread i posted over a few weeks ago which in a nut shell was about me and my ex who were together for nearly 4 years on and off and was my first love broke up. i dumped him through e mail because he said he didnt no what he wanted and didnt want to meet me because he didnt enjoy meeting me anymore. he said that a month before but begged for a fresh start and that he didnt mean it and denied it was true but then said it again! he has messed me about in the past too of breaking up with me then changing his mind so this time i had to end it and i did it through e mail cos he didnt no when he wanted to speak to me so didnt want to wait around for him as hes done it to me quite a few times where he has dumped me. since the email we spoke briefly once on the phone cos i rang him a week later to ask what he thought and was quite off on the phone and said he was happier without me. since then its been nearly two months and have been secrety hoping for a phone call or text to say sorry for what he done but i havent heard anything. ive seen him a few times recently where he says hi but nothing else. its like hes forgotten about me and doesnt care i cant get over him and i cant stop thinking about him and how it ended as i spent nearly 4 years of my life with him and i want to text him and meet him so we can talk properly as we never had chance to talk so i can have more closure. shall i wait for him to contact me? or shall i contact him and stop playing these games so i can meet him and leave on better terms then ultimately get over him better? help i dont know whats best all i know is i cant stop thinking about him and as time goes on its getting worse as i feel upset how we ended and cant move on from the relationship.
See_ya_on_the_flip Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Hi, I hope this does not come across as harsh, but.... You need to learn that YOU are a voluble and lovable person WITHOUT him! Sister, I KNOW how you feel now, like I do, horrible! But for your own good you should tell yourself it is OVER. I know you don't want to hear this but it IS true, no matter if you reconcile or not. Get it? You are what is important here, NOT him! I've been dumped more times then not, I've had 3 LTR 10+ years, and it will take time for you to get your sea legs, longer if you don't MAKE yourself believe it is DONE. Peace lil girl! And NO DO NOT CONTACT HIM. Mark
Soul Bear Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Someone sent me some great help today, here it is Courtesy of TheBigCow- ''I posted this elsewhere but a friend said to me when I was thinking of going over and seeing my ex one last time "in 20 years you will only regret the things you didn't do, not the things you did do" and although there are examples where this isn't true (I'm sure someone would regret murder 20 years down the line ) I think its very true for us. So feel good that you acted in a way that at the time was true to your heart, because maybe following all the advice on the internet, books ect will heal you quicker, acting true to how you feel will in the long run make you proud, even if it was the 'wrong' thing to do.'' I think thats some sound advice to follow SoulBear
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