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[mrtrinidad]

Hello Everyone. This is my 1st post & I just wanted to say that the views out here are inspirational & really helping me to see different opinions. :)However, after reading Souldbears previous post about no contact & Island Girl respected player insight - I am still confused what to do in my situation. I wonder if the NC rule is working to make my ex miss me or just forget about me.

 

I was seeing this younger girl (22). I'm 32 for almost 6 months. She got a lot of attention becuase of her work (Italian model). I got her by being the chase and eventually landed up sleeping with her all the time until she felt that I was "whipped". When I realized this was true I told her I needed time to focus on myself and a new business I was starting.

 

I did this on her Birthday because I didn't feel appreciated by her & because she told me how the ex “coke head boyfriend” had been calling her. I made plans for her during the day & didn't see her until dinner because she “slept” for most of the day. I suspect she was burnt out from partying with the ex the night before. I cut off all contact with her right after. I ignored all her calls and responded to her texts that I was in meetings all the time. Eventually I land up seeing her again for a few minutes & told her that the reason I have distanced myself is that I suspect she has a drug problem & that I believed that she is better than that. I let her know that I would always be there for her if she needed help & that I cared about her - but I couldn't ever allow myself to get close to someone with an addiction problem like my ex. She became pissed off and explains that she is messed up because of problems at home & how her mom didn’t even remember her BDay.

 

I continue to ignore her calls & answer my phone only when I'm partying with the boys or hanging out with my other female friends whom she is jealous of. A few weeks go by & she asked to see me before I went on a business trip. I brought her over to my house & tried to sleep with her after a few drinks. She rejected me & I lost all control and told her that she was good for nothing other than sex. This was only time I have ever seen her break down & cry. I eventually called back to apologize while on my business trip & she said that already forgave me because of the drinking & that wasn’t really my character.

 

I saw her when I came back (but not right away) & she told me how she is seeing someone who “looks like me”. She added that she was confused by his lack of interest in her now after wanting her as a girlfriend badly in the beginning. I asked her if she slept with him & she said no. I was so hurt by her bringing this out even though i played it off & said maybe he would be interested if she slept with him.

 

She hasn’t called since but sends me messages; 2 weeks ago she text “how it’s going & r u enjoying the weather?” I ignored it completely. A week later I get a msn asking me if I were in the country & saying how she saw my recent facebook picts in my new condo with my new female friends. She also asked why I didn't return her text. I respond that I have been busy with my recent moving & business. She asked me if I were alone (at 2:00Am). I log off after 10 minutes of not responding & even saying bye. A week later and she send me a facebook message to say “whats up sexy” and I still don’t respond. However, I noticed that she added one of my closest male buddies on her friendslist.

 

She still hasn’t called me on the phone & I miss her big time. I wonder if the no contact rule is working to make her miss me or just forget about me. Should I continue to wait for her to actually call me on the phone to see me, or just forget about her & not be one of her ex boyfriends she keeps in contact with just for her drama fixes.