Is He Worth It??

[Louise009]

Hi! I have read a few threads and everyone here seems supportive and provides great advice so i thought i would give it ago.

i first got with my boyfriend about 18 months ago, it wasnt perfect, we argued alot about pointless stuff, if i said something he didnt like there would be murder, in school, at home, in public, over the phone you name it...anyway in time we split up because i coudlnt take anymore, despite this i still loved him and we were pretty close still, then one day in feburay he told me he still loves me, and i new i felt the same way i just didnt want to have to deal with argument after argument again. anyway to get to the point we decided to give things another go and things were looking up he actually had changed, but we had one of those stupid fights and my mates put things into my head sayin he's no good i can do better and his mates do the same. When were alone things are fine, we laugh and were both happy, but if there is someone else in the picture its totally different he's cold, doesnt talk to me he basically ignores me to the extent i will get pi**ed off then he will turn it round on me and claim im bein babish. my friends all tell me he is playing with my emotions, messing about with my head and stuff, i was wondering if i could have like an outsides opinion on what they thought. i should also mention he wants to be a marine and i have told him i completly support him, but he has no drive to get up and go, its like he only wants to do it if i ask him to do something else, its the same with revison, he will only revise if i ask him to go out. we've been back together for just over a month now and i feel like its always me making the first move. we went out for his best friends birthday and he ignored me all night, even left me to come home alone with 4 of my friends who were not very sober!! he said to me its not like i was completly alone but i feel like hes my boyfriend he should of took me home!! is he really worth it??....any advice would be truly greatful...thanksss

[Brit_87]

I was in the same position as you are. I was dating this guy for 4 years...seriously dating him ofcourse. All we ever did was fight, fight, fight! I loved him though so i stayed. For some reason men will always turn the tables and make everything your fault even though you know its not...they make you believe it. I remember days where i didnt get out of bed because of our fights i was so upset. Until one night...he put his hands on me. F that. Hunnie, you will get pushed to your limit oneday and find yourself not even giving a damn about him. And another word of advice...men don't change. So don't think you can change him. That is one of the biggest mistakes women make when it comes to relationships. So, if you want to keep getting into fights then stick around and be his punching bag. if not, get out now. I don;t want to seem harsh but that relationship won't last and it is the best feeling when you realize you are better than that!