Brit_87 Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Okay....here we go.. lol So, I met this guy in December and we have been seeing eachother ever since (He calls it friends but a blind man could see we are dating) anyways, the other night we had plans to hang out. When i asked him he said " going to a movie with the roomate we'll hang out later this week." So, naturally I was F-ing pissed. When i make plans i stick with them. So i called up a girlfriend because i needed a beer. we went to our same bar we always go to and WEIRD...GUESS WHOSE THERE... the guy I am seeing. He acted like nothing was wrong but I kept on walking right past him...i was pissed. Soon after he leaves, I get a text saying "dont talk to me, your ****ed" Then end up talking to him on msn and he tells me friends dont do that to friends, i acted like a bitch blah blah blah. Now, heres the hard part......I have craaazzyy feelings for him! I like him a lot. I know a lot of you are probably saying "WOW..get rid of him" but it;s so hard! I just want to know he can get over what happend do atleast we would be cool...i hate confrontation. How come guys can always make it seem like YOUR fault when its not?? anyways, does it actually work if i don't talk to him that he will try to contact me??? Do you think he will realize what he did? HELP. Thanks guys xo
Datura Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 So you're seeing a guy who refuses to acknowledge you as more than a friend, then has the audacity to say you're acting like a bitch? You're looking at him through rose colored glasses. He's not worth a second chance.
BCCA Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 Red flag #1 - he thinks youre his friend. Him calling you a friend is his indiciation to you that its not going anywhere. He wont refer to it as dating, because he doesnt want to date you. Red flag #2 - He blew you off. Via text message no less. That shows absolutely no consideration, and worse yet, he didnt even apoligize. Red flag #3 - He said he was going to a movie, but you saw him at a bar. Maybe not the worst of lies, but a lie nonetheless. I just want to know he can get over what happend do atleast we would be cool No offense, but I doubt this. I think by 'cool' you mean go back to dating you. Dont you kind of get the feeling youre being played? He's calling you a FRIEND, which you would probably tell most other people is a bad BAD sign if they asked you. I know its hard to see, but this guy seems to care very little about you and your feelings. How come guys can always make it seem like YOUR fault when its not?? Its not just guys, trust me. A LOT of people project things onto you, because its an easy way to shed guilt. Why am I going to admit to myself Im being a jerk when I can call you a crazy b***h and be done with the whole thing? Him blaiming you is one stupid thing, but talking to him through MSN after what happened is another. You just told him right there that you were willing to take his BS. Ignore this bozo from now on, youll be much happier. does it actually work if i don't talk to him that he will try to contact me??? Doubtful. He wont come back with his tail between his legs, but he'll gladly make you feel like s**t if you want to reach out again. He's made it abundantly clear that dating you is not a priority. Do you think he will realize what he did? He does, he just doesnt have a problem with it since he's decided youre the one who was a 'bad friend'. Seriously, why on earth would you waste your time with a guy thats calling you a friend, blowing you off, and lying about where he was going? The only reason I can think of is because he plays on your insecurities, and youre trying to get him to 'give in' and come running to you. That will never happen. THIS is who this guy is, a flaky lying douche. Thats all youre ever going to get from him. You can litterally find hundreds of douchebags just like him at any bar on a Friday night, but NONE of them are worth your time.
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