JaneS Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Would like to hear any opinions on the following please...any advice appreciated. Have been seeing a guy for around 2.5 months now. We live a distance apart from one another (3 hour drive) so only get to see him most weekends. He and I get along great, met most of his family and friends and have been getting a good vibe from him of late. This, despite the fact that he admitted to me early on in our dating period that he was suffering a bad time with anxiety (on medication). He does have concerns that he doesn't want to 'offload his baggage' onto me but still wants to continue with the dating. Generally, contact via the phone instigated by him (once or twice a week normally as he's not a great phone talker!) and text message...was rather lucky last week having received 4 calls in one week! Okay, the main 'chew' point......I decided to give him a call yesterday around 6pm (it's normally him calling me) but it went straight through to answerphone. Thought I may receive a text or some contact back later in the evening (I knew he'd be watching an important football game and would be zoned out for a couple of hours!).....but nothing! That's the first time it has ever happened whereby he hasn't replied by phone or text. I couldn't sleep properly last night (may sound silly to some) just chewing on the fact that I thought it was courtesy just to get back to someone if you had seen a missed call. I'm now thinking he's being ignorant, blanking me, not quite sure really. From what I know of him, he's not a game player. We had contact in the days preceding my call yesterday and things seemed normal - spent the long weekend just gone with him - he did seem to be suffering quite badly from the anxiety during that time so I also wonder if he's not having such a good week in that respect. Am I overreacting here? If he does contact me this evening, how do I express that I think it's courtesy to contact me (even by text) without coming across as being needy and clingy? Chewing over something or nothing? Please help
dreamergrl Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 I think you need to let some time pass before getting to anxious about this.
Author JaneS Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Thanks dreamergrl...guess I am overreacting then! Have waited another couple of hours and still no contact which is very weird for him. Do like this guy so feel a bit sick when I think that he may no longer be interested.....grr, I'll continue to play the waiting game - I will definitely NOT be calling him............
MissDumperUlv2h8 Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 it's not that he's not interested. it's just a break in the pattern of his consistancy in calling you. that happend. You'll hear from him again and probably already have...don't worry.
dressing up Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 it's not that he's not interested. it's just a break in the pattern of his consistancy in calling you. that happend. You'll hear from him again and probably already have...don't worry. I agree. I dislike the break in consistencies because it throws me off but it happens and with time it will be easier.
Author JaneS Posted May 8, 2009 Author Posted May 8, 2009 Thanks MissDumper and dressing up for your comments. You were right...he called me yesterday - one of my theories was right it seems. He is suffering rather badly at the moment with his anxiety which severely affects his day to day life. Yes it was an inconsistency in the pattern of him contacting me. My concerns and tendency to jump to negative conclusions when something like this happens is something I need to work on! 'Just go with the flow and if it's meant to be....' I often tell myself...this goes out the window all too readily Will try very hard from hereon in as this one seems like a keeper - don't want to mess it up.
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