hp321 Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Ok, so my ex-girlfriend og 5 monthts dumped me a little over 3 weeks ago. She wants to stay friends (me too), but I have realised that I cannot do that in the near future. The NC didn't work much in the first week or two, but has gotten better. Yesterday I deleted her from facebook, and it made feel better. She got kindda mad and dissapointed about and wrote to me on msn. Anyway I don't give much about that. The main problem is, that we are members of the same sportsclub, and on saturday the 16th we have out annual season.-closing party. I have 3 options: 1. I go and she will be there, and things will be hard for me 2. I go, and I tell her to stay home (she is fine with that) 3. I don't go. What should I do ?
Faded Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Unless this is something you shouldn't miss and have really been looking forward to for a while .. I wouldn't go. I wouldn't tell her not to go. I'd avoid all contact. Just find something else to do.
Echo009 Posted May 8, 2009 Posted May 8, 2009 This no contact thing is overrated to me. Because we have kids, and **** to sort out, I have had to see her quite a bit. It has been almost 2 months now. At first, it was hell. However, now it has made me stronger, it has forced me to get over her faster in order to deal with her with a proper mindset. You can't go through life afraid to see or talk to the one who ripped your soul out. I don't like talking to her or seeing her, but I am not afraid to do it. I see her for what she is now, a manipulative you know what who is only interested in herself. And because I see that, I am better for it. Fear nothing. The worst that can happen has already happened.
Author hp321 Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 This no contact thing is overrated to me. Because we have kids, and **** to sort out, I have had to see her quite a bit. It has been almost 2 months now. At first, it was hell. However, now it has made me stronger, it has forced me to get over her faster in order to deal with her with a proper mindset. You can't go through life afraid to see or talk to the one who ripped your soul out. I don't like talking to her or seeing her, but I am not afraid to do it. I see her for what she is now, a manipulative you know what who is only interested in herself. And because I see that, I am better for it. Fear nothing. The worst that can happen has already happened. I can see what you are saying. I am really at my wits end here. I don't know whether to go or not. One the one hand, I can't put my life on stand-by because of her, but on the other hand, I fear that the party could be really hard on me beceause she will be there... Any ideas?
Author hp321 Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 ok, so I am leaining towards not goint to the party. The downside of this is, that she of course will notice my absence and think that I am either mad or sad. In other words that I am not doing well... Reading on this board, NC is the best thing I can do. And although I WILL be seeing her in a couple of months time (when the new season begins) I will hopefully be doing better at that time. Do you agree, that I should stay away from the party?
Author hp321 Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 ok, I have decided to go to the party anyway. I want to prove to myself, that she does not control my life! It may be tough to see her, but I believe that it will give me some kind of closure, and then I can move forward even faster!
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