dungja Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 So here's the story-I'll try to keep it short and simple. My girlfriend broke up with me about 2-3 months ago. She was my first relationship and I was her first relationship and it seemed fine until one drunken day she broke up with me saying she thought she was a lesbian(Damn!!! haha). The next day she retracted her drunken lesbian claim, but ended up breaking up anyways. Anyways it's been 2-3 months and I've dealt with the brunt of the heartache that resulted, but I still can't get my mind off of her. I even did the whole no contact thing, and haven't actually held a conversation with her since then(the occasional hi was about it). I'd like to just go one day without once ever thinking about her, but I can't. I feel like I've made all the right moves in terms of dealing with a break up- i.e. hanging with friends, talking a lot to family, doing schoolwork/working out, and cutting off all contact with her. Yet I can't help but think of her at least once if not more every day when I'm alone or right before I'm about to sleep. This is driving me crazy and was wondering if anyone has any advice for me.... Should I seek a therapist or something?
trying123 Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 You can if you think it will help, but its your first love First loves are so hard man, you can just never see the end. Look you are doing the right things, I promise it is supposed to hurt. I know it sucks but if it didn't hurt than the relationship meant nothing. While pain does suck, it is part of the process, you are respecting the reltationship and how much it mean to you. I remember my first love, I dated her for a year and a half, it took me about a full year to get over her. But you move on and you realize that is stupid after you find your next love, then you break up with them and find your next one. also a great book, the things I have learned from the woman who have dumped me, good read
Author dungja Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Yeah I guess the fact that she was my first love has a lot to do with it. I just wish thoughts of her would stop controlling me so much though. I recently took a final exam and a thought of her popped into my head and once again the thoughts just consumed me. Even at parties where other girls have showed interest in me, I still couldn't take action due to thoughts of my ex. Anyways thanks man, I guess I just needed somewhere to vent, and hopefully it really is just a matter of time
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