LadyV Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 I crept his FB site and her's too, yes, it was confirmed, he has moved on. Although I feel relief to know that things really are done between him and I, I still feel HORRIBLE.. and started crying and feeling sick to my stomach. All this crap keeps running through my head....and self doubt starts to sink in... *Did he really love me? *How can he move on so fast? *How can he tell me he loves me just a week ago, and is miserable without me, yet can't be with me...fine...but already, there is someone else? *Why did I allow this to happen? *Am I really that week? *Was I not good enough? *We were rough from the start. *Is he going to do to her what he did to me? *He kept me close for his own selfish reasons! Until got tired of me... *I allowed myself to get hurt!!!!! I can't sleep. I knew I never should have gone to his site, or hers. I did, and it all makes sense. Us breaking up is a good thing because of all the drama and the issues...but it still hurts!!!! It still hurts....Screw him!!! I'm pissed off, angry, and I don't even have a right...we aren't together anymore, but still. It hurts. Why can't I get over this? Why do I feel so consumed by this....I need to see my thearapist!
trying123 Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Nothing has ever good come from looking at someone elses profile. All it has done was cause me to drink alone Seriously though don't beat yourself up and ask yourself all these questions, these things happen. What your missing here is you have all of this self doubt. *Did he really love me? *How can he move on so fast? *How can he tell me he loves me just a week ago, and is miserable without me, yet can't be with me...fine...but already, there is someone else? *Why did I allow this to happen? *Am I really that week? *Was I not good enough? *We were rough from the start. *Is he going to do to her what he did to me? *He kept me close for his own selfish reasons! Until got tired of me... *I allowed myself to get hurt!!!!! honestly I know its hard, but listen to independent woman and realize that he will never have someone like you. I don't know you, your story, or anything that happened. What I do know is that you are special, everyone is. Even though what you had did not work and he is already dating someone else, it will never be better than you or worse than you , just different. I know its hard but you have to realize that he is just being weak and trying to replace you, trust me, everything you had is irreplaceable because it was different than anything he will every find again. He will soon realize this You said it yourself, things were rough from the start, after time goes on you will realize that nobody in the relationship is bad, sometimes people just aren't compatible, and you will move on and realize that this sour experience is just an experience. You will remember this moment and then really cherish the next relationship that comes along.
Author LadyV Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Thank you for your reply. Yes, I admit it, I have a lot of self doubt. I was married for 13 years...My husband left because he was just not happy. The marriage was very rough too. I dated him for only 5 months....5 months!!!!! Yet, I am finding it very hard to move past this because of my self doubt issues.... My counselor told me to find this book called. "Then Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives." I wasn't going to get it, but after reading another post , I think I can find this book useful. I seem to attract men who are emotionally unavailable and am willing to just "settle" for less.... Thank you for your response....Everything you said made sense....I just want to work on ME now, put this all behind me on move on...
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