Sam Spade Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 and my whole worldview is shattered . Basically, he's the least likely guy to come up with stuff like "we really clicked", "I've felt as if I already know her", "extremely notable encounter", etc. etc. etc. But he just met a girl in a work situation and insists that that's exactly what happened. In other words - a soulmate situation, or so he thinks (not that things are remotely close to an actual relationship yet - he still has a girlfriend, the new girl will be his subordinate for 6 months, etc.). But in spite of all these things the major certainty in his voice is pretty impressive, and a bit chilling too! He could not precisely define it except say stuff about eye contact, ease of conversation, and "you just know" (and believe me, he really isn't that kind of guy), and he says he never felt that, except maybe with his first gf. So why do I care? Well, since I trust him so much this really shatters my firm belief that this whole soulmate thing is bullcrap , and dangerous one too. So, what if I'm wrong? What if the only shot at a satisfying relationship really is finding "a (or The?) soulmate"? I still refuse to believe that, simply because this would mean that you basically surrender to chance and surrender personal responsibility for establishing and building relationships . But, I bet this is a recurring topic/doubt not just for me, so I'm reignating the topic of the soulmates - do they exist, how do you know, and what if you never meet one?
SushiX Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 There are over 6 billion people in this world. I been out with plenty of girls in my life and have met some I believe could be my soul mate, but then I meet another and she's an even more likely candidate. Understand where I'm going with this? Eventually I'll settle down and that person will be my soul mate.
Author Sam Spade Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Eventually I'll settle down and that person will be my soul mate. That's really how I see it. Moreover, I've felt the "you just know" feeling in the past, and so what? Only to enter in a harmful, pointless relationship . Pretty much like MTV's "Cribs", the pop-view on relationships induces sense of quilt if for some reason your relationship doesn't follow the stereotypical plot (or if you live in a 3 bedroom house instead of the 6 bedroom house with game room and media room in which you *should* be living ). So, I refuse to believe that my relationship is of any lesser quality just because i don't "just know" :lmao:.
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