wildsoul Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 We could use a little gallows humor around here. I'll start the thread, but look forward to reading your contributions. Q: What dumb a** things has your MM/W said to you? *** This was in an email exchange: Me: "Every time you became verbally abusive to me, I've fell a little bit more out of love with you. Now, I'm done." Him: "My expectations for you were unconditional. When you told me that you lost love for me each time I blew up at you---that made me reflect. Did I lose love for you when you threw those many tantrums? No, not at all." WTF? So he was loving me MORE than I was loving him, while he was verbally abusing me? (My "tantrums" were to make him leave my home when he started yelling and name-calling.) Don't anybody light a match! The gaslight will explode!
jj33 Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 LOL its the Dan Quayle award for stupidest quote from an MM. That guy was a real narcissist wasnt he - not only did he justify being verbally abusive but he managed to make it all about him.... (the only subject worth discussing no?) and to "one up" you... good thing you dont smoke the gas would have caused an explosion that would have burnt down your house! I cant think of any offhand other than my recent favorite - that he knows he cant make me happy right now, but its only because hes married... AND .... I didnt say this but the only reason pigs cant fly is because they dont have sturdy wings... Exactly what is his point? I'm capable but I will never be in a position to follow through (its my excuse and Im sticking to it....) Thats when I realized every word he says is just code for still married still married still married...
NoIDidn't Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 We could use a little gallows humor around here. I'll start the thread, but look forward to reading your contributions. Q: What dumb a** things has your MM/W said to you? *** This was in an email exchange: Me: "Every time you became verbally abusive to me, I've fell a little bit more out of love with you. Now, I'm done." Him: "My expectations for you were unconditional. When you told me that you lost love for me each time I blew up at you---that made me reflect. Did I lose love for you when you threw those many tantrums? No, not at all." WTF? So he was loving me MORE than I was loving him, while he was verbally abusing me? (My "tantrums" were to make him leave my home when he started yelling and name-calling.) Don't anybody light a match! The gaslight will explode! I thought this was supposed to be funny?! I got one for you; Him: My dad told me that I'm breaking a fundamental rule of seeing another woman when I already have a girlfriend? Me: (curiously, as the statement was stupid by iteslf): What rule is that? Him: I'm not supposed to spend money on you. Dad says I have to pull back, so I can't take you out to eat tomorrow night. We were already out at a restaurant while he was saying that. Needless to say, he didn't get "any" that night. He never did stop breaking his dad's fundamental rules with me, though.
jj33 Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 NID that is hilarious... good thing he had such an able tutor...
NoIDidn't Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 NID that is hilarious... good thing he had such an able tutor... He was hilarious. I always get a good laugh when I think about the things that he said to me. AND THE MANY THAT I FELL FOR. He was with her because he was "obligated" with me because he "wanted to be". I was the "wild and uninhibited one". He "wished we met earlier" so he wouldn't have to cheat on her. Its all laughable.
jj33 Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 Well when you put it like that he HAD to cheat on her. Dam* fate for bringing you into the picture so late.... well at least he had his Dad to show him the ropes...
bentnotbroken Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Can I play? Mr. Messy came to me naked one night and said he was horny and could I help a man out? I said sure, find one I can help and I would be glad to.
NoIDidn't Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Can I play? Mr. Messy came to me naked one night and said he was horny and could I help a man out? I said sure, find one I can help and I would be glad to. Oohh, that was mean. LOL
Author wildsoul Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Can I play? Mr. Messy came to me naked one night and said he was horny and could I help a man out? I said sure, find one I can help and I would be glad to. :lmao: You're killing me!
Author wildsoul Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 I thought this was supposed to be funny?! I got one for you; Him: My dad told me that I'm breaking a fundamental rule of seeing another woman when I already have a girlfriend? Me: (curiously, as the statement was stupid by iteslf): What rule is that? Him: I'm not supposed to spend money on you. Dad says I have to pull back, so I can't take you out to eat tomorrow night. *Groans*
OWoman Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 We could use a little gallows humor around here. I'll start the thread, but look forward to reading your contributions. Q: What dumb a** things has your MM/W said to you? I don't have anything from my own sitch to contribute, but have been party to the following others: * "I have to give my M a chance" <-- MM to his OW of 15 years, on dumping her, out of the blue. * "Perhaps if you lost some weight I wouldn't need to look elsewhere for love" <-- CS to BW - she's skinny, he's overweight * "Of course I love you baby. I love her too. When I'm with you, she doesn't exist. And when I'm with her - oh, could you pass the sugar?" <-- MM to one of his OWs, explaining compartmentalisation the stupid way * "Of course I'll love you forever. <pause> I've got until 4.30pm when I have to fetch the kids from school" <-- MM to OW, on the phone. Did he realise how dumb that sounded? * "No she's not younger, thinner and better looking than you. Well, not much" <-- CS to BW... why? * "I'm at work, of course" <-- CS on phone to BW, from noisy shopping mall playing loud christmas music * "I need to find myself" <-- CW to BH (meaning, "... a hot piece of manflesh") * "This isn't goodbye" <-- MM "taking time out to reflect on the M" - subtext, "but I wish it was" * "Of course I love you" <-- MM to OW (meaning, so I won't use a condom) OK I'd best stop before I get all bitter and twisted...
jwi71 Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 WS- Good for you! That separation, that distance between you and "him" is awesome. Because you now find those lines patently absurb just like I do...and I'm on the outside looking in with NO "skin in the game". Very healthy that you see those "lines" in a different light. Of course, the followup to you and all others is... What happened to your brain during those times? How do normally intelligent, accomplished people fall for that crap?
Author wildsoul Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 OW: Oh my, those are BAD. JWI: Trust me, he said plenty of things that didn't pass undetected. I think that it's more the case, for me anyways, that the rest of the time he was saying all the "right" things, yanno? Pouring it on. Just thought of another one, that twisted things around and irked the hell out of me: Me: Have you and your W discussed when you're going to begin the paperwork process for the divorce? I need to know that your separation is progressing, and that she doesn't think this is just a time-out or that you're "working on things." I don't want to be in anything still resembling an affair. Him: Oh! So you want me to KILL her?! I see. You want her DEAD. How horrible of you! You're so selfish!
2sure Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 MM to OW (me at the time): You are doing my wife a favor. She cant keep up with the sex I need. MM: If I were single, you would still want me right? MM : Why cant my wife enjoy my humor as much as you? (Uhhh, because Ive only heard the same story eight times as opposed to 800?) MM: This is special - with you, I love that we can have a great time just staying in. (LOLOLOLOL - like there is an option??)
NoIDidn't Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Of course, the followup to you and all others is... What happened to your brain during those times? How do normally intelligent, accomplished people fall for that crap? Emotional vulnerability at the time. Not to mention, most of the time these stupid comments just weren't worth saying something to the idiot that opined them. For me, it was just "writing on the wall".
joybean72 Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 My now ex husband asked me to help him to get a house for him & the OW. That's just the latest stupid thing he's ever said to me ( & I could SO go on and on! lol) but now I'm the evil biatch yet again because I won't do it for him!
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