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Men and the chase!

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Chicago_Guy Established Member

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he obviously didnt like me. my frustration is in "why"? especially when he was the one that was so into me. And literally the first time I ever reciprocated and initiated a phone call, POOF.

 

You'll drive yourself crazy if you overanalyze this. Maybe you didn't do anything wrong and you just weren't his type.

 

I seriously doubt that the fact that you called him "chased" him away. Most guys like it when women whom they like show interest in them.

loveslife Established Member

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It's really normal to want to know why, but you might never know and it's really okay. The best any of us can do is be ourselves and hope we can find someone who is a good fit.

 

I used to dwell on these things and obsess over why, why, why.... why did he treat me that way, what was he really thinking, on and on it went. And now I look at all that time and energy and realize it didn't matter or make a difference.

 

Try and focus on making yourself the best you that you can be. Whatever his reason, it's his issue and his loss.

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lolarose Established Member

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I know it's best for me to not obsess over it. I can understand dealing with this type of thing here and there, like I'm sure most people do...but it's ALL I've been dealing with since I was 17 years old. I've never been in love, had that amazing butterfly feeling (or at least had it reciprocated)....never. And I am nearing 30. It really hasnt hit me til now, how sad it is. Ive never been the type to look for boyfriends like my friends do. obsessed with getting married and boying a house, etc... I've always just been independent, but obviously always yearning for someone. I'm just not desperate. I thought this was a good thing but I think it's becoming detrimental. Anyway - sorry for the self-indulgence :)

 

I am that girl that guys use as the post-breakup ego stroker, I've decided. lol If it was something I "did", I wouldnt have to rack my brain. Like someone said on here, if a guy liked you, little things that you would think pushed him away....WOULDNT - if he really really liked you. I mean, unless you showed up at his house and threw rocks at his window or something psycho lol.

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