v g Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 So to begin with, if you're expecting her to change, you're in for a world of hurt. She's not going to change. Are you enjoying things now? Wait until later. If you stick with this relationship, it will only be a matter of time until she starts dogging you for not making enough money. And at the same time she will have spent everything you have. You're going to have a huge mortgage. You'll be drowning in debt. She'll still be dogging you for not making enough money. Not a pretty picture. She's incredibly selfish. The choice is yours. Stay or go? I hope you choose to go.
JustLooking123 Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 If you stay with her, expecting her to change and/or enabling this gold-digging BS, then you deserve whatever comes your way. I think sympathy will dwindle (more than it already has) if you keep posting about the problems in the relationship.
sotired Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 She is just interested in having a guy spend money on her. As soon as the money runs out, she'll move on to someone else. People like that aren't capable of forming real attachments, it's all about them, never about you. She's fishing in the wrong pool. She needs to find an older man for a sugar daddy....I don't know many 20 year olds that can drop $400 on a necklace and god knows how much on cruises. Dump her and find a real girl.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 There's days where it feels like she's making changes you know? Then I get hit by everything I hate about her again. Its a marry-go-round. Its like "Oh good, she's doing okay, I'll stay.....Oh god not again, **** I wanna bounce" Like I can't make up my mind, should I stay or should I go kind of thing. I guess until you tire of the abuse, you'll stay. Have fun with that.
Citizen Erased Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 It kind of bothers me honestly, because her, her sister, and all of her friends feel this same way. They expect their boyfriend to pay for everything, regardless of how much he makes, what other bills/finances he has to pay. Its discouraging to be honest, it makes me wanna play the bench instead of being in the dating game. As a young man, there's things I want to do for me you know? I want crisp pairs of jordans, I want a nice system in my car. They may sound dumb but I shouldn't be left with nothing to spend on myself, regardless of how much I make. HINT: Don't date prissy bitches like her, her sister and all of her friends. I've never heard you say one positive thing about this girl except that she is hot. When is the point that her looks no longer overcome her crappy personality?
Trialbyfire Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 HINT: Don't date prissy bitches like her, her sister and all of her friends. I've never heard you say one positive thing about this girl except that she is hot. When is the point that her looks no longer overcome her crappy personality? Which is a good reason not to be with her. Having said that, no one is completely evil, so you know right there and then, that there's a whole 'nother side to this...
Touche Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Gotta love the comment about "marrying the lawyer." I did. And I STILL don't expect $400 necklaces. And uhm, no. There is no never-ending ATM card either. Sorry, had to get that stupid myth off my chest. Look, your girl is a spoiled and selfish princess. I would be sooooo disappointed if my son or stepson ever dated someone like that. I would have thought that we did something wrong in raising them. She's trouble with a capital "T." Stay with her and she'll just treat you worse and worse and you'll be forever saying "how high?" when she says "jump." She wasn't raised well. I don't care if she was raised in an upper middle class family. Her family obviously didn't raise her properly. Clearly, you have more class than she does. I hope you know that money doesn't equal class. Stop being such a wimp.
dreamergrl Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Tell princess to go find a man that will fulfill her every monetary desire. And when you kick her a$$ on the way out, remind her you aren't her last boyfriend, unemployed or not.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 The person who said you're getting arm candy and she's getting a walking ATM nailed it. Does neither of you have any more self-respect than this? Come on.
Trialbyfire Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 I've said this time and again on LS. If you're solely looking at the superficial, to find a partner, you get what you pay for. If you can't afford to pay, strange how it's no longer working, no?
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