nino2005 Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 Hi, please help me. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, I met him through my friend, who was his current girlfriend. She was my best friend. They didn't have a very good relationship, always arguing etc. they were together on an off for about a year. Around this time I was with a guy, he was my first boyfriend and didn't treat me very well, but I was very naive at the time and didn't know any different. I needed to get out of the relationship and it was my current boyfriend who helped me. Through this we became closer, he kept pushing for it to be more than friends but I didn't want to do that my best friend. However, I later realised that he made me really happy and thought about it for a long time. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him and realised that it was worth risking a friendship for. My friend obviously took it badly, but we are still friends now. It would have been easier to cut all ties but there is a group of us and so it was practically impossible. Ever since then however, it has felt like a competition, she is always telling me how amazing her boyfriend is etc. and I try not to do the same because I don't want to rub it in that I'm with her ex. Anyway, things have become more difficult for me lately. My boyfriend's sister was the one who introduced my boyfriend to his ex, they were close friends also. His sister has recently had a baby, and while she was expecting, my friend announced she too was pregnant! I should have been happy but all I could think about was how close they were going to get again. It's as if it's a competition to be my boyfriend's sisters best friend. Now they have this huge thing in common and I don't know what to do. The other night my boyfriend's sister even said she missed his ex. It's as if my friend has everything that I want, a perfect boyfriend, a house, good job, a baby and my boyfriend's sister. I am nowhere near any of this as I am still a student. I am fed up of trying to be nice to my friend and forget the past, but then this sudden burst of jealousy appears. Please help.
subdued Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 It sounds like your friend still hasn't gotten over the fact that you are now with her previous boyfriend. There is no reason to be jealous. You have him. She doesn't. Besides, the important thing is that he makes you happy. Yes. Your boyfriend's sister and friend have a connection because they are both into babies right now, but your friend is having a baby with someone else, not your boyfriend. There is no reason to be jealous. You have a relationship with your boyfriend's sister that your friend does not have, because you are your boyfriend's girlfriend and your friend isn't.
Author nino2005 Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Thank you, I think I just need reassurance sometimes and you have put it into perspective. I am going to try and not be bothered by it anymore, I'm sure my friend will get bored of telling me how wonderful her boyfriend is if I don't react to it. Thank you again
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