Queequeg Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 My boyfriend works the average 40 hr work week, 9-5. I work one part time job, averaging 25 hr weeks at different times of the day. Sometimes I work at 5:30am and other times I work until 10:30pm. Sometimes I work in the middle of the afternoon...or afternoon to past dinnertime. I usually work 5 days a week. There are many other factors to our relationship but I just want some general opinions. Given the times we work, would you say it is fair that I do all the house chores, including cooking, dishes, vacuuming, mopping, cleaning the bathroom, laundry, taking out the recycling, looking after our pets, tidying up, etc? It is true that I do not bring as much money in. That is his rational for not doing anything, also he is too tired to do anything. We are 21 and 22. Opinions? Thanks.
bean1 Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 Hmm. Well, it's up to you, really. I'll give you our perspective. I only work once per week (12 hour shifts) and I make about $1000-1200 per month because I am in university fulltime. He works M-Thurs 6-4 and brings in about 5x what I do. He pays everything (including mortgage) except my car payments and school tuition. So yes, I do ALL the housework and taking care of our little one since I am home all week (except for 1-10pm 2x for classes). I think our arrangement is quite fair. What is his share of expenses? Ours is a $4-5000 month difference so that is quite a lot and I think it is only fair that I do the housework. We are 25 and 31.
2sure Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 The deal is this: the one who works less hours and has more free time should probably do the weekly stuff like floors and bathrooms. The rest simply falls under the category of PICKING UP AFTER YOURSELF. Mommy doesnt live there and you dont have a live in maid -so picking up after yourself is just something normal people without slaves do. This includes dishes, laundry, cooking etc.
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