lovinghim Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 Hello everyone..First off I want to wish all the moms out there Happy Mother's Day. Now, I am not a mom but my boyfriend has a 13 year old daughter and he is divorced. But anyways, here is my question and something that is bothering me. For a 2nd year in a row, his ex wife has asked to have Mom's Day away from his daughter and I feel bad because his daughter was looking forward to spending time with her on Mother's Day. If you are a mom, dont you want to spend time with your child, after all, it is MOM'S DAY.
amaysngrace Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 Is this weekend Mother's Day? Because if it is my kids will be with their dad that day. For me every day is Mother's Day. Just like every day is Christmas Day because my kids are the best presents I've ever gotten. I think Mother's Day is mostly for adults to think of their moms and for moms who have a husband to see that the mom gets waited on all day by the kids. My kids can go wait on their step-mom.
2sure Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 Last year, on Mothers Day it was my ex's weekend. When I dropped off daughter (now 13) I asked him if I could pick her up a couple hours early on Sunday so I could spend time with her on Mothers Day. He had a full blown tantrum and we argued there in his drive way. Anyway, I told her this year I wasn't going to bring it up and she said "Mom, I spend quality time with you every day so I dont mind" . Plus, she will be home for dinner, etc. So - it doesn't matter. Its possible her Mom feels the same way and has other things planned for that afternoon that her daughter would not enjoy - like going to the cemetery (I do that) or having a ladies luncheon. If the daughter doesn't bring it up, it may be something they have discussed/planned among themselves. What would be GREAT?? If you took her shopping so she could be her Mom a little gift.
bentnotbroken Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 I didn't spend Mother's Day with my kids last year. I went with some friends out of town for a spa weekend. My kids are older, but sometimes the best mother's day present is a day away from the kids. It can be so rejuvenating.
Meaplus3 Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Hello everyone..First off I want to wish all the moms out there Happy Mother's Day. Now, I am not a mom but my boyfriend has a 13 year old daughter and he is divorced. But anyways, here is my question and something that is bothering me. For a 2nd year in a row, his ex wife has asked to have Mom's Day away from his daughter and I feel bad because his daughter was looking forward to spending time with her on Mother's Day. If you are a mom, dont you want to spend time with your child, after all, it is MOM'S DAY. Yes. I do love to be with my 3 little ones on Mother's day. Has the daughter expressed her feelings? Mea:)
smookie Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I love spending time with my kids on mothers day. And yesterday I did not because the kids are all older and working. My daughter did however send me a text saying Happy Mothers day!!! Ok so I was in walmart and got all crying in food isle but still I loved it as much as I would have if she was right beside me.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 My exH would never dream of keeping the kids from me on Mother's Day. In fact this year we had a family occasion where both families were involved, and I spent most of Sat evening and almost all day Sunday at his place helping entertain. After the guests left, the kids did their own thing, and he and I sat and had a beer. Then I took the kids back home (it was my weekend anyway).
White Flower Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 I would be very hurt to not have my kids on Mother's Day. If the weekend fell to their dad I would do everything in my power to switch weekends with him. I would do the same for him on Father's day or his B-day.
sparklemama Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Well mothers day i spent it exclusively with my daughter this year.Her father took her to the park for about an hour while i did some chores around the house.Then she stayed with me all day,It was pretty much a regular day for me.I think that to each is own.On mothers day I enjoy going out with my daughter and her father and enjoying ourselves as a family but i do not knock anyone who wants that day to themselves to pamper themselves it really is the day of the mother and how she wants to enjoy her day!As long as she takes care of her child and is a good mother she should enjoy her mothers day for all its worth and how she pleases.
sparklemama Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 But i have to see that in the situation you explained that the mother should have spent time with her daughter as her daughter was looking forward to spending that time with her mom.I think that when your kids get of age and make plans for you on mothers day it is pretty lame to choose to do something else! Did the mother know that the daughter wanted her to spend time with her on mothers day?
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