Are any of you reeeally laid-back guys?

[BeachBum86]

I'm a little frustrated. I'm hanging out with this guy who is super laid back, which is cool but sometimes I don't know whether he's just being easygoing or uninterested! Guys I've seen in the past have always been the one suggesting we do something or go somewhere, but this guy doesn't really do that as much. I like him, but I just don't know how to react?

 

So what kind of girls do you laidback guys like? I'm more of the 'guys girl' and very drama free....I'm afraid this might not be the right mix!

[BCCA]

Well, try asking him what he wants to do. Honestly, a lot of the times, I find that if someone has something in mind Im usually ok with it. And as men, we kind of became used to doing what your gf wants because we honestly dont care. We would seriously spend entire weekends watching sports and drinking beer with our gf's if they were interested.

 

Im a laid back guy, but I try and plan dates at least. Sometimes I'll ask for input, but he may just like spending time with you and not really care what your time is spent doing. Everyone is different though. I wouldnt say he wasnt interested, he could just be defaulting to what you want to do to make you happy, or try to.

 

And I like 'guys-girls' just fine. I think youre more of a hybrid, though. I have a co-worker thats a bonafied guys-girl, and she wouldnt care if a guy did this. She interacts with guys like a guy does, never makes hints - always says EXACTLY what she needs to, and all that. You seem like youre a low drama kind of person, but a guy wouldnt worry about this kind of stuff

[start-fresh]

I consider myself really laid back and my friends would agree. I am definitely more attracted to drama free laid back girls, but what guy wouldn't say that anyway? If I had to offer a suggestion, I'd say pull back and see if he starts suggesting things to do. That's really the only way to say for sure if he's interested or not. Also, keep in mind if he's this way in the beginning, he will only get more lazy. Not that there's anything wrong with that, you just need to decide if it will get to you eventually.

[jayOG]

I'm very laid back. I generally don't care what we do unless it's something i seriously dislike. I like easygoing girls that are flexible and open minded, not panicky and over anxious, but also responsible. Haha, no drama is perfect. Some laid back people are ridiculous, i.e. not paying bills etc... that's not being laid back, that's being retarded. So make sure this person is realistic even though they are laid back. Not, "I can fix the broken front door next week" That type of person won't mix with anyone.

[Star Gazer]

My BF is very easy going and laid back in general, but he definitely set the tone of our relationship by initiating contact, asking me out, etc.

 

Even the laid-back guys go after what they want, IMO.

[carhill]

Beware of the laid-back guys with drama swirling around them. That's a black hole there

 

As far as the kind of girls they "like", I would opine most which enter their event horizon. They like them for something.

 

If you're wondering whether the guy is interested or not, that says something. In everything, including interpersonal relationships, there is balance. If this guy is so laid-back that you don't know if he's interested, where does that balance lie?

[IcemanJB]

My BF is very easy going and laid back in general, but he definitely set the tone of our relationship by initiating contact, asking me out, etc.

 

Even the laid-back guys go after what they want, IMO.

 

Agreed. I have been called quite laid-back before, but if I really want to do something with a girl, I'll straight up suggest it. But I tend to attract/be attracted to the type of girl that would never ask a guy out first even if she wanted to, so it's usually on me anyway.