Chibaby Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Scenario: Guy and girl are both major geeks in high school. Girl geek is not cute but likes guy geek. Guy is cute, but doesn't think girl is cute. Never really talked to each other, but know who each other are. She's interested, he's not, but he's still very polite and nice. Fast Forward 10 years: Facebook era - Girl sends friend request to guy even though they never really spoke in high school. She's married, he has a girlfriend who's average. She's pretty smokin' hot these days...Wow didn't see that coming! He's cute, still a nerd. Both have the same interests/careers and live close to each other, even though it's states away from where they grew up. Girl sends a message saying, "Hey, I hope you don' t think I am a weirdo, but I always thought you were a neat interesting person. Let's be friends now..." Are you: A: Flattered and thrilled - lets be friends B: Creeped out - she's a stalker C: Thinking she is unhappy in marriage D: Thinking you want to get to know her since you're different people now E: Stoked, thinking about the "what if's" F: So over high school. Ignore. G: Thinking she needs to get over the past H: Curious - what's her motive? Lets be friends I: Other???? All of the above? Fill in the blank ________________ Thanks!
BenThereDunThat Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 I. Other: Assuming there's been no contact in between, and assuming girl wasn't a freak about following the guy around in HS, guy just thinks it's one of about 100 other HS "friends" wanting to beef up their friend count. Unless the girl was a stalker, he probably doesn't remember much beyond "oh, I think that girl might have had a crush on me." I had a FB account for a couple months. All these HS friends came out of the woodwork. All of a sudden I knew when so-and-so was cleaning her floors, when that guy was getting taco bell for lunch, etc. It took everything in me not to put "picking my nose" in the What Are You Doing RIGHT NOW? box just because I thought it was so ridiculous. I disabled the whole stupid account. Don't get me wrong, it's great for keeping up with people when you've moved away or re-connecting with people you might otherwise not have been able to. But for me, I found the whole experience annoying. I realize I'm in the minority though.
rainbowbrite Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 c and h . elaborate as to your motives though. i mean are you not happy? if hes happy with his relationship, dont be the other woman
Author Chibaby Posted May 6, 2009 Author Posted May 6, 2009 Very Happy. Motive = curiosity at best. Just wondering now that time has passed and things have changed what he would think of her now. Perhaps a lingering innocent crush at worst, but grounded in reality.
taiko Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 10 years, the first big reunion is coming up. I wonder if Facebook has been a plus or minus for that industry. It is easier to find people but then they already know what happened to X so why go to the reunion to find out or show off adult sucess?
karlag Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Other: you rejected her she wants you to see what you missed out on. Her plan worked. Now concider A & D A: Flattered and thrilled - lets be friends D: Thinking you want to get to know her since you're different people now ***On Facebook I have been contacted by at least 50 people that I havent talked to since highschool and I can honestly say I dont consider the requests to be a hookup possibility.
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