dont_understand Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Just broke up with my ex after a year. He says he loves me but doesn't think he is ready for a relationship afterall....what does that mean??????? We've been in a mutually exclusive relationship for the past 8 months and recently he said he doesn't know what he wants, and he didn't know if he could get past it. I should have to convince someone to be with me, so when I told him I can't be with someone who isn't sure if he wants to be with me, this is what he wrote me: Listen, i'm sorry that i cant give you any assurances about whatever you want. I don't want you walking on eggshells and i feel horrible that thats how i made you feel. I wish i could just flip a switch and be clear headed and know exactly what i want in the here and now. You are an amazing person with so much to offer and i'm sorry that you feel like i turned you into a passtime or hobby. All i can say is i'm sorry, i never in my wildest dreams thought i would hurt you, and i can't believe that i did. I'm so sorry. I know you aren't going to want to keep hearing from me about anything, so we can just say good bye now and not have to see eachother and be reminded of me hurting you. I truly do wish you all the best, you are a great woman...and i'm the one who is not good enough. you might call it a cop out or whatever but its the truth. All the best Can you really love someone and not be ready to be with them? What do I do???? PLEASE HELP!!! Do I let him go? Do I chase him? Is he just scared? Im so confused. .ExternalClass .EC_hmmessage P{padding:0px;}.ExternalClass body.EC_hmmessage{font-size:10pt;font-family:Verdana;}[sIZE=3][/sIZE]
Aprilmkidd Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 dont you ever chase anyman let him go clearly he's not ready for you
Author dont_understand Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 I just don't understand what that even means. He pushed for this relationship, and when we talked in person about how he's "not ready", he was crying and looked torn and conflicted...telling me it's him not me...he's just not good enough...he's just not where he should be. He's right...it does sound like a cop out, but he was very emotional. Makes me so confused as to why he would want to hurt that bad if he loves me the way he says he does. I don't understand the mentality of loving someone and enjoying their companionship and then up and walking away.
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