aotc Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I have a girl coming to my room later today to study. I'm pretty sure she's interested in me. I'd like to make some kind of physical move on her and get flirty, but I'm not sure how. Any suggestions?
Author aotc Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 Yikes? I don't see what the big deal is. I've gone out with this girl a number of times for lunch and other things. I'm comfortable with her and she's comfortable with me. Now for once we're going to be somewhere in private, I want to escalate things by making a move. You know, like a kiss or something. From what I hear, either I've gotta be the one to make a move or else nothing will happen.
zhsoj Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Well now as long as the studying won't be effected then I guess you could do some extracurricular activities... Though with the job market the way it is what's the point in studying, right? Anyways, forget the "moves" ****. Try touching the outside of her arm, or hand, or something... If you don't think that's working, just ask her... From my own experience and that of others, there never is a perfect time, or a clear set of signals... If you want that watch peacock mating behavior.
IcemanJB Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 In my experience, the girl has always made it pretty darn clear that she's interested if we're alone. You said this is going to be the first time you two are alone? I say see how she acts, then decide what to do. Don't go in thinking "oh, I'm going to touch her arm" or "I'm going to ask her for a kiss". Give her a hard time (playfully), joke around, poke fun at her and see how she responds. Historically in my cases, if I make a smart-ass, semi-flirty comment and she smiles and hits my arm or tickles me or something, then I know it's game on. Just go with the flow. Slowly escalate things if she's responding positively.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Awww, this thread is cute. It's always adorable to see how a guy makes his first move. I've been hanging out with my (male) neighbor a bit lately, but I am totally not interested in him. Yesterday he tried to kiss me!! I felt bad for him, because I had to back away. He was hilarious, though, and goes, "Ahhh, go ahead. Knee me in the balls!" As he was leaving, he said he wasn't giving up. It's always best to start with some subtle touching of the arm and that kind of thing and see how she responds. She should definitely let you know just from that whether she's receptive to it or not.
zhsoj Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Awww, this thread is cute. It's always adorable to see how a guy makes his first move. I've been hanging out with my (male) neighbor a bit lately, but I am totally not interested in him. Yesterday he tried to kiss me!! I felt bad for him, because I had to back away. He was hilarious, though, and goes, "Ahhh, go ahead. Knee me in the balls!" As he was leaving, he said he wasn't giving up. It's always best to start with some subtle touching of the arm and that kind of thing and see how she responds. She should definitely let you know just from that whether she's receptive to it or not. Adorable, pathetic... Yup, basically sums it all up.
Admiral Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Start touching, escalate it more and more, and then kiss her.
jayOG Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Studying is a relatively inappropriate time to pull a move, but reciprocate her behavior and you never know what might happen. OR JUST ASK HER OUT on another occasion...
Author aotc Posted May 7, 2009 Author Posted May 7, 2009 Well it was clear neither of us really cared to study. I never study with other people...I just use it as an excuse to hang out. We did it legitimately for 10 minutes and then just hung out. Nothing really happened, but we talked a lot and flirted a bit. Little stuff, like making up reasons to touch hands. I honestly wasn't feeling it with this girl, which is a shame because she's really nice and pretty. She just, well...I feel bad for saying this, but she isn't that bright. I feel like I'm a lot more attracted to a girl who's witty and can make me laugh a bit. This girl just wasn't doing that. I guess this is what chemistry is. Oh well. This was the first girl I've even spent time with in a long time, but I feel better now, even though I probably won't see her again. I don't feel as lonely.
IcemanJB Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Fair enough. Kudos for not forcing the issue with her just because she's pretty. At least you know now, right?
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