Curious-One Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Me and my friends have been arguing about this lately so i need some input on it. Is it possible for the girl to have sex with a guy that she doesnt have any feelings for. I keep hearing that girls are emotional creatures and that with enough "game" any guy can go out with any girl where as guys care more about looks. For example if i see a girl who looks good i would be willing to have sex with her right away.... is the case same for the girls too? If you see a guy with an nice body would you want to have sex with him right away? If a an average guy came up to you and said all the right things would you go out with him even though you didnt find him attractive..? Did you ever fall in love with a guy strictly because of his personality? If you are curious why i am asking this ...We were debating on if looks matter to girls as much as they matter to guys.
butter_cup Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Honestly, it depends on the type of girl. Some girls are like guys - LOOKS mean EVERYTHING! But, you can find girls whom don't care if you are FAT/UGLY/SHORT/TALL. I fell in love with my 'hubby' when we first met - yes, i thought he was extremely beautiful. But, it's not all about the looks it about the way the act towards you & what you both feel for each other.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I have had sex with guys that I had no feelings for. It wasn't necessarily for looks, though, either. I just wanted to. My BF is no GQ model. But he treats me like gold and is one of the sweetest guys I have ever met. I actually didn't think he was that great looking when I met him, but the more I have gotten to know him, the more attracted I am to him. IOW - I see more and more to appreciate visually the deeper I fall in love with him. With my XH, I was also attracted to his personality/mind first. I didn't think he was that cute. But the more I got to know him, the cuter he got. LOL Weird how that happens. I actually don't think I'm really able to fall in love with a guy that is immediately physically attractive in my eyes. Those ones have always ended up being the jerks. I don't trust people very easily that coast by on looks. Looking back on my dating history, it's actually really strange how attraction works.
WhyYesThankYou Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 This is a lot of questions!! I'll answer for myself personally, although I agree with the previous poster that it depends on the girl. Is it possible for the girl to have sex with a guy that she doesnt have any feelings for. I once had sex with someone I didn't have strong feelings for - there was just an unbelievable sexual tension/chemistry there that had been building for weeks, and eventually we acted on it and the air was cleared. I didn't like him, I didn't dislike him - we just had very little in common. I think the mutual attraction was nature's way of saying our DNA should get together - but we outsmarted nature by using a condom. if i see a girl who looks good i would be willing to have sex with her right away.... is the case same for the girls too? If you see a guy with an nice body would you want to have sex with him right away? I might want to, but I can't really see it happening. I sometimes see a guy in a shop or on the street or (more recently and regularly) doing road works, and think about having sex with him. But wanting this and doing it are separate things. I have no reason to talk with these people, and even less to suddenly jump them. So if you're wondering if I think about them sexually - yes, sometimes. But I don't do anything to act on these thoughts. If a an average guy came up to you and said all the right things would you go out with him even though you didnt find him attractive..? If I actually found him unattractive, then no. But if a guy I might not ordinarily have noticed came up to me and started talking and seemed nice and interesting, if I wanted to get to know him more, yeah, I'd go out with him for a coffee or something. A guy I dated recently isn't my "type" at all, but he approached me and was really interesting. We started going out, and the more I got to know and like him, the more attractive I found him. Did you ever fall in love with a guy strictly because of his personality? Never without some level of physical attraction. But as I said above, sometimes the personality has helped to spark a physical attraction where I didn't see or feel one previously. We were debating on if looks matter to girls as much as they matter to guys. Looks matter to me, and yes, there are some guys whom I see for one second and think very impure thoughts. But personally I always go for personality first. And I have met guys who didn't ring my bell at first but ended up winning me over with their personalities; on the other hand I've met some guys who were VERY attractive - until they opened their mouths.
loser101 Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I don't like the generalisation that men are like this and women are like that. You get all sorts in both genders. Compare a friend of mine and I: she will go for looks when she meets a guy, she will look at all the artificial things like his shoes, how trendy he looks etc. I go for personality, big time. Did fall for someone slowly in the past who wasn't particularly good looking but he was so much fun, I couldn't help myself. It was to do with sexual chemistry though, not about his saying the right things. I can also have sex with men without feelings yes. I had several one night stands and more often than not I wouldn't want the man's number in the morning because I realised there wasn't anything there beyond sex.
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