triathlongirl Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 A quick question here as it seems there is a lot of variety on this board. Have any of you been caught in a love triangle of some sort? Met your MM's wife either during or after the affair?
fooled once Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I did not know the wife of the MM I once was involved with. Never met her. I only spoke to her once when she called me to tell me to leave her husband alone. I told her "no problem - get him under control and tell him to leave me alone".
jj33 Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Yes I met her on several occasions and have spoken with her on the phone. I am always warned (even now) when she will be somewhere where I will be. We are always polite and social with one another. She knows my relationship to her H. Its all quite civilized.
xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I met his wife and even his kids a few times briefly, but way before me and MM got involved with each other.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I've known a few of them. A few of them more than others. Come to think of it, I can't think of a time where I didn't know who they were either through passing or knew them more than just in passing.
jj33 Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Triathalon Girl - does this mean you are taking this forward? It sounds like you are. You are going to regret this. You still have time to move away from it.
Lizzie60 Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I was caught once by a W.. but I had no idea this guy was married.. We had been dating for 6 months when she caught us. I saw my MM's wife (from work) once.. in a store.. she is hideous.. never seen a woman like that before.. it's unbelievable.. (horse face, she looks like a transvestite.. ewwww.. they don't match at all)... Then I saw my young MM's gf twice.. the first time in a mall (but only saw her from the back).. then in a maternity store.. she is very pretty.. looks like a teen pageant.. (blond hair, beautiful eyes, nice smile, nice skin)... The others I never met...
GreenEyedLady Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 A quick question here as it seems there is a lot of variety on this board. Have any of you been caught in a love triangle of some sort? Met your MM's wife either during or after the affair? I met her after: she's my stepdaughter's mom.
pikachu67 Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 i have met her twice, before MM and I got involved with each other. Since then, i have not seen her but she has called me several times and text me to warn me to stay away from her H.
OWoman Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 A quick question here as it seems there is a lot of variety on this board. Have any of you been caught in a love triangle of some sort? Met your MM's wife either during or after the affair? I've not "met" her in the sense of being introduced and speaking to each other, but we have encountered each other while at an event the kids were performing at. (This after she INSTRUCTED my H not to attend or not to allow me to attend if he did choose to attend.) It would probably not have happened if her BF hadn't recently dumped her - when they were together she had no interest in attending the kids' things - but as things turned out, it was a huge deal for her. She's had absolutely NC with my H since.
noforgiveness Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 i have met her twice, before MM and I got involved with each other. Since then, i have not seen her but she has called me several times and text me to warn me to stay away from her H. In other words. You had a dday and he has begged her for forgiveness while still fooling around with you. He goes home to her every night, denies his love for you, and kisses his wifes butt to hang onto her and you are oh so proud she begs you to leave them alone. Then he calls you or sneaks in a quickie when he can get away with it. Wow what an admirable life you lead.
noforgiveness Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I met her after: she's my stepdaughter's mom. Does she know how long you were involved before? Does the daughter know? Do you get along?
2sure Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 During a previous A with MM...lasted about 3 years...I met his wife by chance. He wasn't with her, I recognized her by the name when we were introduced at an office I didn't know she worked at. While the meeting left me feeling like the ugly head of reality ruined the A..... MM seemed oddly excited when his wife told him the names of the people who came in for a meeting that day. It seemed like the collision of reality and fantasy...made him feel validated or something. I never figured it out, but did find it creepy.
GreenEyedLady Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 Does she know how long you were involved before? Does the daughter know? Do you get along? You sure are nosy aren't you? You should know by now I don't give out TMI...So I guess you'll just have to wonder, won't you?
OWoman Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 It is absolutely amazing to me you have not met this woman previously. You have publicly scewered this woman on here with some of the worst characterization of her and you have never even met her. Wow I could go on and on for pages of all the terrible things you have said about a woman you have never met. That is really sad and does not say much for your character. I don't need to meet Hitler personally to know he's not a very nice man. his behaviour is a matter of public record. So too with my H's xW.
noforgiveness Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 You sure are nosy aren't you? You should know by now I don't give out TMI...So I guess you'll just have to wonder, won't you? LOL um yep it's TMI to inquire on an ow board how the ow's relationship is the x or the stepdaughter hen the ow gets her happy ending. Ummm okay then...
noforgiveness Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 I don't need to meet Hitler personally to know he's not a very nice man. his behaviour is a matter of public record. So too with my H's xW. Exactly Hitler is a well documented historical account versus gossip. You have trashed that woman to no end. She did raise those children you are so fond of and obviously held a very special place in the heart of that man you love.
GreenEyedLady Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 LOL um yep it's TMI to inquire on an ow board how the ow's relationship is the x or the stepdaughter hen the ow gets her happy ending. Ummm okay then... That's right, not my thread... I don't answer questions just because someone asks them...
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 I have met my MM's wife at office parties. It's a larger company so didn't have to really socialize. Although one xmas party I was mingling and sat down to talk to her hubby and another guy from our office. This was years before we even started flirting, and she didn't seem very friendly at the time. I tried to include her and the other guy's wife in the conversation and it was hard to get boo out of them. I didn't get it.
OWoman Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 Exactly Hitler is a well documented historical account versus gossip. You have trashed that woman to no end. She did raise those children you are so fond of and obviously held a very special place in the heart of that man you love. "historical account" is just "gossip" printed in books. When several reliable informants concur - with concrete evidence - in separate accounts, with corresponding details, the evidence is regarded in a court of law as accurate and convincing. And sometimes the evidence is enough without one having to have witnessed the crime oneself - if you come across a dead body with a knife wound in their heart, you don't have to have witnessed the knife being plunged into their heart to know they were stabbed. She didn't raise the kids, he did. I know this both through what I've been told (by family, and by the kids themselves) and through what I've observed directly. As for my H having cared for her at one time - so what? My father used to smoke compulsively at one time, though that was also bad for him. He gave it up and hasn't touched it since. Am I supposed to respect tobacco, just because he once had a damaging relationship with it?
White Flower Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 A quick question here as it seems there is a lot of variety on this board. Have any of you been caught in a love triangle of some sort? Met your MM's wife either during or after the affair? I never met her. I only saw her from a distance once while at the same event. I purposely stayed away because if I were in her shoes I wouldn't want someone flaunting themselves in front of me. I'm not saying I'm prettier or better in any way, but I was afraid she would automatically think that simply because her H chose to spend so much time with me over her. She didn't need an image of me if she ever found out about me.
NoIDidn't Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 "historical account" is just "gossip" printed in books. When several reliable informants concur - with concrete evidence - in separate accounts, with corresponding details, the evidence is regarded in a court of law as accurate and convincing. And sometimes the evidence is enough without one having to have witnessed the crime oneself - if you come across a dead body with a knife wound in their heart, you don't have to have witnessed the knife being plunged into their heart to know they were stabbed. She didn't raise the kids, he did. I know this both through what I've been told (by family, and by the kids themselves) and through what I've observed directly. As for my H having cared for her at one time - so what? My father used to smoke compulsively at one time, though that was also bad for him. He gave it up and hasn't touched it since. Am I supposed to respect tobacco, just because he once had a damaging relationship with it? I am not interested in an argument, but I have to wonder with the other posters why if you married the man you waste so much emotional energy tearing down his exW. Its not healthy.
noforgiveness Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 That's right, not my thread... I don't answer questions just because someone asks them... lol I guess your non answer is answer enough.
noforgiveness Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 I am not interested in an argument, but I have to wonder with the other posters why if you married the man you waste so much emotional energy tearing down his exW. Its not healthy. My guess. Her husband has no backbone. It is very easy to see by her posts and the way he apparently let his wife treat him until OWoman swooped in and rescued them all. She needs to remind himself that she is the good guy in all this and did what had to be done to save this family from the wicked wife and mother. Her husband is too wishy washy to boost her ego so this reminder helps.
herenow Posted May 7, 2009 Posted May 7, 2009 "historical account" is just "gossip" printed in books. Ya know OW, you and I may not always agree, but I find this to be the most disgusting thing you have ever said. The Holocaust was a very real historical tragedy. It was not as you say "gossip". If you feel that way take a trip to any Holocaust museum meet a survivor and listen to their story. See the permanent tattoo on their arm. Here about how they were separated from family and friends to live in ghettos. Only to find later that everyone they loved and cared about were dead. Then tell me that history is gossip. For you to compare your H's wife to Hitler says a lot about his taste in women. I cringe at what you are teaching that poor little stepchild of yours. This type of ignorance is truly what separates us and keeps the world in turmoil. JMO BTW, you are the one that brought Hitler into this thread, I'm just giving my opinion about your post. I don't find those type of references amusing or funny, but that's just me I guess.
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