wierdmunky Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I just broke up with my bf a week ago, and I can't do NC on texting. I don't know if this a bad thing, or good because it helps ease the pain knowing that we are not together, but still communicates with me, and says it does not bother him when I text. He said he still wants me in his life. I just don't know if I will regret this later, he hasn't changed his myspace status, our pictures, or me as #1. Is he waiting for me to do it first? Because I haven't done it either. I just don't get why he is being so nice still. He says I'm still welcome at his house, will be a long time till he is over this whole thing, and still wants me at his bday. I'm kinda confused, should I have hope still?
Author wierdmunky Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 Mostly him. Almost mutual, as in I didn't fight and say maybe we can work this out. I brought up the status of our relationship a month before, asking about our chemistry, and he had almost completely stopped talking to me to "think". I asked later if he was still into me (because he would never call me first) but when I initiated a conversation through the phone, text, or email, he would act like everything is perfectly fine, like a nice guy. And he said we need to talk. Basically he said that we don't have the chemistry, and compatibility that we did in the beginning, for no apparent reason. He said he likes me, but that might not be enough, and he was okay with just going with the status quo, but thought I apparently have a problem with it. He also said that he has nothing bad to say about me, but as far as long term he doesn't know, and asked me what I thought. I said I didn't think that far ahead. I didn't want invest all that unless I thought he was even ready, or until I could see that we were taking those steps. I thought we weren't so I brought up the whole issue of chemistry and etc a month before.
Soul Bear Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Mostly him. Almost mutual, as in I didn't fight and say maybe we can work this out. I brought up the status of our relationship a month before, asking about our chemistry, and he had almost completely stopped talking to me to "think". I asked later if he was still into me (because he would never call me first) but when I initiated a conversation through the phone, text, or email, he would act like everything is perfectly fine, like a nice guy. And he said we need to talk. Basically he said that we don't have the chemistry, and compatibility that we did in the beginning, for no apparent reason. He said he likes me, but that might not be enough, and he was okay with just going with the status quo, but thought I apparently have a problem with it. He also said that he has nothing bad to say about me, but as far as long term he doesn't know, and asked me what I thought. I said I didn't think that far ahead. I didn't want invest all that unless I thought he was even ready, or until I could see that we were taking those steps. I thought we weren't so I brought up the whole issue of chemistry and etc a month before. Chemistry is science...use your heart instead.....
Author wierdmunky Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 hmmm... elaborate more? Sorry I can't understand anything right now..
boogieboy Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 hmmm... elaborate more? Sorry I can't understand anything right now.. His reasoning sounds like BS to me, he's just trying to let you down easy. He doesnt want deal with the guilt seeing you break down in front of him by telling you he found someone else that he likes more. If he didnt find someone else, he is just saying he doesnt want to make it work with you. It's going to be hard, but cut him off completely, lick your wounds, and move on.
Author wierdmunky Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 ow. He's tried to be very clear with saying that there was no one else, but that he doesn't even really have time with his schedule and how things are definitely not going to let up. I'm so hurt. I hate how he did so much to get me to this point only to change his mind Should I ask him what is up with his myspace? Is that another "nice guy" thing?
boogieboy Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Dont pay attention to what he's doing on his myspace. I think he has no intention on being interested in you right now, from what you described his behaivior as. Leave him alone, and he MAY come back after a while, but dont count on it. Get it in your mind that its over and find someone new, thats INTO YOU.
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