Peter_pan Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 basically to everyone, no one ever forgets there first true love. you will always compare them to the next person, you will always think about them when you are sad or lonely. it is for this reason even though i know my ex isnt coming back, she is with someone else and its been over a year. i will hold out for her. unless someone else super special comes along, then i dont see why i should invest all that energy when ultimately you wont stop thinking of the ex. yes this is putting up a wall and one could argue that it could make you miss opportunities and i would agree, but im not because i havnt put up a wall. i am completely open for someone else amazing to come along. i just dont see it happening. and no i am not looking. i am aware it comes when you least expect it
discombobulated Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 I wish I had constructive advice, but I am in the same messed up situation. He left me, and I cant see ne one quite like him. I will tell you this though, do everything she thought you couldnt do, that way when she sees you, you cant feel like your ill equipped, much love and support man.
EmperorR Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Yeah even though my first love was my ex fiance a cheat a woman who opened up her legs to a complete stranger, I'll never forget her, you don't forget just the emotions fade somewhat, however sometimes they do come back strong.
northstar1 Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 basically to everyone, no one ever forgets there first true love. you will always compare them to the next person, you will always think about them when you are sad or lonely. it is for this reason even though i know my ex isnt coming back, she is with someone else and its been over a year. i will hold out for her. unless someone else super special comes along, then i dont see why i should invest all that energy when ultimately you wont stop thinking of the ex. yes this is putting up a wall and one could argue that it could make you miss opportunities and i would agree, but im not because i havnt put up a wall. i am completely open for someone else amazing to come along. i just dont see it happening. and no i am not looking. i am aware it comes when you least expect it I remember my first love, but I don't compare new relationships/girlfriends to her. I was young and naive and much less experienced in life back then, totally different person with totally different needs.
Author Peter_pan Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 yeah your right. people change and want different things. but i still hold the idea and image of what was. and cant drop it. i am wanting to get this doctor appointment and get numbers for specialist who can help sort my ocd and racing thoughts out. and then maybe a relationship counselor to tidy up or at least help me see straight in this mess. after i have started these two things i would really like to contact my ex. maybe apologise and tell her about all the help i have had and how i am a better person. not in an attempt to get her back, but might be nice, cause she lived me when times were hard on me and i really should have seeked help
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