hades07 Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Saturday I was waiting to go out with friends and ended up on a dating site for a bit and chatted with a girl got along great, both of us were going to the same bars that night we found out so we ended up meeting up after only chatting for a bit, got along great and I spent the night at her house and half of the next day just in bed chatting and listening to music, learning ALOT about each other. I have a tendency to be impatient and if I like girls message them often asking them to hang out and stuff but if I dont have much interest they tend to be attracted to me, so I guess im too clingy im assuming when I like a girl. I havent messaged her or txtd her or anything, only time we chanced since I left her place was yesterday when she was home for a bit supposedly packing she messaged me on msn. I was wondering how should I handle this, just message her asking if she wants to hang out sometime or talk to her slowly at first and build up a relationship? We got along great and would love to hang out with her more and thats what i tend to do when im attracted to girls alot, ask them to hang out alot to get to know them.
BCCA Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Million dollar question: did the two of you have sex? Answer and I can give my opinion.
Author hades07 Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 Nope we didnt have sex did everything else and probably could have, but I have done that a few too many times lately, having sex with a girl on the first date and I tend to lose interest after that fairly quickly, even if I dont try too, so I didnt do it this time.
confused and broken Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Saturday I was waiting to go out with friends and ended up on a dating site for a bit and chatted with a girl got along great, both of us were going to the same bars that night we found out so we ended up meeting up after only chatting for a bit, got along great and I spent the night at her house and half of the next day just in bed chatting and listening to music, learning ALOT about each other. I have a tendency to be impatient and if I like girls message them often asking them to hang out and stuff but if I dont have much interest they tend to be attracted to me, so I guess im too clingy im assuming when I like a girl. I havent messaged her or txtd her or anything, only time we chanced since I left her place was yesterday when she was home for a bit supposedly packing she messaged me on msn. I was wondering how should I handle this, just message her asking if she wants to hang out sometime or talk to her slowly at first and build up a relationship? We got along great and would love to hang out with her more and thats what i tend to do when im attracted to girls alot, ask them to hang out alot to get to know them. Of course you should call her and ask her out... If you don't she is going to be the one that thinks you're not interested. Just call her once not 400 times
WhyYesThankYou Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Agreed - call (or the equivalent) and ask her out. Not just to "hang out," though. Ask her to do something, even if it's just to go for a coffee or drink or a walk somewhere. Have a plan. And call her soon, once. Do not inundate her with texts/IMs etc. Contact her, make a plan, stick to it, and then message her the next day to say you enjoyed it (if you did). It's a fine line; contact her often enough so she knows you're interested and haven't forgotten about her or are spending all your time with other girls. But don't give her reason to think you're a single-minded obsessive stalky freak.
Author hades07 Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 Thanks for the advice, ill message her later today to see how her day and work is going. Ill see if she wants to go see a movie or play tennis, she mentioned playing tennis together as i left. Shes also obsessed with the beatles so maybe watching the movie Across the universe would work.
Author hades07 Posted May 6, 2009 Author Posted May 6, 2009 Seems like your advice worked, she wanted to go on a hike today and I told her about a place and probably could have went but our work schedules conflicted so if possible were going to hang out tomorrow, and apparently she likes my sarcastic sense of humour, who knew haha
Author hades07 Posted May 6, 2009 Author Posted May 6, 2009 Thanks, she is giving off some weird vibes, one second seems all happy, the next kind of blah lol but were going to take the dog to the park now in awhile after my meeting, let you know how it goes.
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