iptwife Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Hello All, So my husband and I have joked with the idea of being a little more adventurous in the bedroom. Maybe going to a party and watch some people, or being watch. Some fun stuff. I would like to do that, but I dont know how to bring it up. Any tips. Or any ideas of where I can find places like this.
jimj_123 Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 I've had amazingly similar thoughts but haven't come out and said anything to my wife. I often wonder if she's had them, too. I don't think I would want to do more than observe and be observed, though. I just can't imagine doing anything with another woman. But your thoughts are very interesting. Can you elaborate a little more, iptwife?
Heroic Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 We have thought it might be hot to be watched but it's not so likely we would ever go through with it. I did some research with these sites. In the end we desided we just weren't cut out for even for the voyeuristic aspects. My advice is to be VERY CAREFUL once you open a door like that you are exposing yourself and your marriage to people and ideas who do not place value on traditional marriage roles. http://www.nasca.com/states/nasca_clubs.html http://www.swinglifestyle.com/ Soft swinging generally refers to people who don't actually swing but enjoy having sex in the same room with another couple. The original meaning referred to people who were more into swinging as a social experience rather than as a hard core pursuit, but over time, them meaning has changed.
voldigicam Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 An alternative adventure is to get a cabin at a family-oriented nude resort. Then you can wander around nude with other people, go back to the cabin & go at it later. The Saturday night parties are great, too. Soft swinging usually seems to lead to things. I suppose it's not committing. Hard swinging usually ends in very close or divorce. Relatively little in between, from what I've seen.
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