PinkRibbon Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 My boyfriend broke up with me on Easter weekend so we have been apart for 3 weeks into week 4. We never went more than 3 hours without talking for over a year so this has been hard. My question is last Sunday April 26th I left a message on his cell phone being really nice and upbeat sounding about a bunch of stuff I have in his garage. I just basically said, Hey R this is C. I was calling to see when you would like to get together and getting my items out of your garage so we can wrap this up and lose each others numbers like you want. Give me a call and let me know when. talk to you soon. (I was hoping he could hear the smile in my voice I was perky.) I haven't heard a peep. Now I am not complaining because of a box or two of items. This is massive amounts of stuff. I have a china cabinet that was my grandmothers her old tread type sewing maching about 20 of those 18 gallon platic tubs with decoration and baby items of my daughters. Lawn chairs. And a huge 4 foot long Barbie House he built me. All this takes up half of his 1 car garage then he has a huge tool box and motorcycle to put in there. The bike barely fit last time I was there. I know everytime he opens that door everyday because he was always out there he had got to be reminded of me. Especially the doll hosue he built me. His birthday present to me. Wouldn't you think he would be clamoring to egt it out of there. To be done with me? So should I email or text again and ask when we can do this? I don't think he would trash my items but I never thought he would break up with me then email my mother a nasty email. So who know. I really would prefer to chew my own fingers off than email or call so I am thinking when he is tired of the stuff he will contact me. Is that fair?? Advice??
sotired Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 I would give him another call or email and state that you need to get your stuff. If he ignores that, I would get a police escort to go to his place and get it. He can't hold your property. I would make a list of everything that is in there and if it's damaged, document it with photographs. This is more of a CYA thing if he does trash your stuff and you take it to court.
Author PinkRibbon Posted May 4, 2009 Author Posted May 4, 2009 The thought of emailing him again or even calling makes me sick. I don't know if I can handle anymore rejection and that would be another rejection from him. When he gets tired maybe he will call and say get my crap out. I am grabbing at straws. Maybe I shouldn't worry about it?
BCCA Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 The thought of emailing him again or even calling makes me sick. I don't know if I can handle anymore rejection and that would be another rejection from him. When he gets tired maybe he will call and say get my crap out. I am grabbing at straws. Maybe I shouldn't worry about it? Honestly, I would let it go for now. I highly doubt he's going to throw away or trash anything of yours, especially since he dumped you. If the shoes were on the other foot, I would be a little more concerned, but he probably just doesnt want to deal with it right now. Eventually, he'll want that space back and he'll get your things to you. He might also think that this is a guilt trip. I've felt like that before, especially with the comment about losing each others numbers as soon as the exchange was made. Don't make it any more dramatic than it has to be, you dont need the police or anything like that, and I would be surprised if they even wanted to get involved. And what is taking it to court going to do? Wow, you might get a few hundred bucks...Im sure being patient and getting your stuff back is worth more. You made your call, leave it alone. If you don't hear back for a couple months, maybe try again, but watch your ego. Its already taken a pretty serious hit, and I can tell by your posts that youre in pain. Dont find new ways to erode your self esteem, just let it go and hope for the best. Oh, and it doesnt matter if you were upbeat, perky and smiling when you called...I learned that the hard way. When someone dumps you, it doesnt matter if you call from the beach in Aruba surrounded by gorgeous models, they just dont care.
Author PinkRibbon Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 Thanks BCCA you are right I don't want the drama and the "throwing away of numbers" was actually the statement he threw at me and I was just using his words. I am moving in a month to a house I am buying. I may think on this but I could just have my brother go over and get the items when he comes down to move me. That way I don't have to see him or even communicate with him. Oh I know he doesn't care. If he did he wouldn't have left. I am repeating that to myself everyday. Thanks guys!
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