monkeymaid Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 y would a mature person with no history of playing games (for 6 years) be trying to do or hoping for by staying in touch?
ATR Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Dumper: To see if you are still pining for them. It gives them a ego boost at your expense. Dumpee: Misses the ex, letting emotions take over rather than using your head. Desperate? Also consider that maybe this person has been 'acting' for those 6 years and only now you have seen their true colours.
Author monkeymaid Posted May 4, 2009 Author Posted May 4, 2009 i am the dumper and i feel desperate. ...she stays in contact and we have been dating/hanging out with all the perks till 2 days ago when i found out she is dating others
annxxdisaster Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 I would agree with ATR, except I don't really think that wanting to talk to you ex makes to desperate in all situations, nor does having feelings for them. I still talk with my ex, I'm not desperate to get back to him. I want to, but in no means am I going to die or plummet into a hell of crying and self-loathing because he may not want the same thing I do. I dunno, I don't want to give up something that I personally feel is worth my effort just because I may come off as desperate. A bruised ego would hurt way less than thinking 'what if...' every so often ten years later.
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