Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 5, 2009 Author Posted May 5, 2009 If you don't feel comfortable telling a guy "personal things" like the simple fact that you have your period, you should not have his d*ck in your mouth and his cum going down your throat. I mean, really. Star, is there something wrong with my english? I mentioned the period as an example. I didn't say I was having my period.
GorillaTheater Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 If you don't feel comfortable telling a guy "personal things" like the simple fact that you have your period, you should not have his d*ck in your mouth and his cum going down your throat. Yeah, but it's not like they were having sex or anything.
Star Gazer Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Star, is there something wrong with my english? I mentioned the period as an example. I didn't say I was having my period. WHATEVER! Whether you can't talk about your period, or having it, or that you have it... I mean, really. If you can't TALK about personal things with him (or any other guy), you shouldn't be DOING such personal things with him!!! Nothing gets more personal than SEX!!!
kizik Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I really, really wish Tony would close this useless, self-serving, argumentative thread. You can't talk to PC; she is one big Game.
dreamergrl Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 I'm kind of speechless. And confused. Everyone has so many different opinions. I'm lost. But I still maintain that OP needs to take a vacation away from men. Paper, if you wished other date was kissing someone else, why did you even go on that date? It seems to me that you need male attention. I tend to lean with SG on the whole therapy. I used to go the same route you are. It's not healthy, and if you can't see for yourself what it's doing to you, then it's time to get outside help.
Star Gazer Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 But I still maintain that OP needs to take a vacation away from men. I think we all agree on this, Dreamr. It seems to me that you need male attention. Yes, to which she agreed by admitting she requires external validation to feel whole. I hope she recognizes the pattern soon and does something to change it. I suppose it's always easier to see it from the outside.
Kamille Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 I've decided to explain why we shouldn't jump to conclusions about Papercut's artist. To be clear, I know this an internet forum and that it's impossible to read tone, but in the two previous posts where I was discussing the question of whether or not the artist was a gamer, I was, in one, trying to throw a bit of humor into the mix, and in the second, seriously asking if there was any evidence I had missed that might allow us to assume that the artist is a gamer. I wasn't being confrontational, and I certainly didn't feel there was no room for other points of view. I was discussing. Now, the point: It seems to me that Papercut already gives too much power to this guy. Upon reflection, I realize this is why I think it's important not to construct the guy as untrustworthy and a gamer. This would only perpetuate her tendency to try and protect herself by playing games, instead of protecting herself by working on her self-worth. I feel like Paper is afraid to trust men, that she doesn't know how to go about dating someone she likes. Because of her history with her father, she might believe that a man's love is an all or nothing game. I feel she would gain from seeing that men, and this artist guy amongst them, are human beings too. That men aren't the enemy. This might help her stop approaching dating like it's a win or lose game, and, instead, help her approach it with more serenity, as she tries to find a partnership.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 6, 2009 Author Posted May 6, 2009 I've decided to explain why we shouldn't jump to conclusions about Papercut's artist. To be clear, I know this an internet forum and that it's impossible to read tone, but in the two previous posts where I was discussing the question of whether or not the artist was a gamer, I was, in one, trying to throw a bit of humor into the mix, and in the second, seriously asking if there was any evidence I had missed that might allow us to assume that the artist is a gamer. I wasn't being confrontational, and I certainly didn't feel there was no room for other points of view. I was discussing. Now, the point: It seems to me that Papercut already gives too much power to this guy. Upon reflection, I realize this is why I think it's important not to construct the guy as untrustworthy and a gamer. This would only perpetuate her tendency to try and protect herself by playing games, instead of protecting herself by working on her self-worth. I feel like Paper is afraid to trust men, that she doesn't know how to go about dating someone she likes. Because of her history with her father, she might believe that a man's love is an all or nothing game. I feel she would gain from seeing that men, and this artist guy amongst them, are human beings too. That men aren't the enemy. This might help her stop approaching dating like it's a win or lose game, and, instead, help her approach it with more serenity, as she tries to find a partnership. I completely agree with you K. I think I had given artist guy too much control, while at the same time, I had wanted to take control of a situation which seemed to me like I had no control in. I don't know if I can truly say I'm afraid of men, but I can say I have a fear of being touched by them at times. Sometimes I find that wearing clothes that cover myself entirely is more comfortable than actually showing skin. I know men aren't the enemy, and I never admitted they were. I do have alot of male friends that I love and value in my life, but I think it's people that I don't know that I get uncomfortable with.
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