Mountainlove Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Hello, I am new to this forum as for the first time in my life I am in a LDR. I met my boyfriend on holiday. We only spend 2 days together when my holiday finished and I had to fly back home. Every since we life 5000 miles apart:( and have been e-mailing and phoning daily. After a few weeks we both noticed that we loved each other and both could imagine to spend our lifes together... I know it sounds crazy but it a feeling I can't explain - I just know! I visited him for the first time after 2 months and we spend a week together. It was so nice and we both were so upset when I had to leave again. Apart from me flying to see him every 2 months we decided that at the end of the year I will spend 6 months with him (unable to get a visa longer) to see if things really work out between us. Even though it is the thing I want to do I am also really scared at the same time. Scared that it does not work out, scared about leaving everything behind and scared to live in a country were I don't know anyone. My question is did anyone else did this step in the past or is planning to do something similar? It would be just nice to hear how you coped with it. Many greeting:bunny:
Maggs Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 I'll be emigrating to the UK next year after we get married. Maybe it should bother me, but it doesn't at all! I lived over there for 2 yrs already--travelling and working. I loved it! I carved out my own life over there so I think moving won't be too bad. I've never had a single doubt to be honest!
Island Girl Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 My husband and I are working on him getting back to the US. He lived here before so it was always the plan. We have been together a really long time though. Just enjoy the plan. Focus on the 6 month "visit" and enjoy being with him. During that time live just as you would if you were there permanently. Don't talk about what happens after the 6 months until you are near the end of the visit. Just relaxing and living day to day there will go a long way towards helping you feel comfortable with moving there (if that is what ends up happening). Just saturate yourself with being together and relating as you would if you lived in the same place. --- I hope that makes sense.
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