cloverdale Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 I'm 28, male. Would like to meet someone but even after being single for 6 years really don't ever have the motivation to ever ask a woman for a date. After having a couple ~2 year relationships when I was younger the whole novelty and excitement just seems to be gone from dating for me. The whole concept of a relationship just doesn't impress me much anymore. Having to live with someone. Having to be "ON" all the time. Knowing that I my masculinity is under constant scrutiny. I just don't see anymore what the point of it all is. I have enough trouble entertaining myself, pleasing myself... and deal enough with my own self-criticism. To have to also please someone else and make sure they have their perfect little world just so I can have sex and someone to cuddle with at night? Been there done that. It's nice but it doesn't make up for the exhaustion of having to be a perfect man 24/7. I guess I'm just lonely but, eh, don't really feel like there's any alternative. Anyone know where I'm at?
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 Gees. If having a relationship were as much work as you are stating, I wouldn't bother, either. It shouldn't be that painful. Seriously. In a good relationship you should be able to just BE WHO YOU ARE. I don't feel like I'm constantly performing for my BF. I just am who I am and he loves me for it. He does the same. I roll my eyes at some of the stuff he does, but I don't expect perfection at all. How boring that would be. Maybe if you were to ever experience that "ease" with a woman and just being able to be who you are, you'd be motivated to date her.
era Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 I'm not dating right now...I sometimes feel it would be an intrusion in my life. Taking care of myself seems to be a full-time job, and I'm not interested in taking on someone else's problems because I have enough of my own. I am one of those women that in the past had to ask for "space" - this is because I felt smothered in my last 2 relationships. Right now I am in a good place, and I don't feel lonely...it's the opinion of society, friends, and family who think I should be feel lonely - but I don't feel that way.
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