Star Gazer Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Good grief woman, do I need to clarify everything for you Hahaha! I guess so! I don't know much of the behind-the-scenes stuff.
Star Gazer Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 but he's in favor of gays getting married.... One of the many reasons why he's so ...
Trialbyfire Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Me likey Irish too. It's not difficult to do so. Funny, witty, intelligent, with strong ethical boundaries and his own mind.
burning 4 revenge Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 It's not difficult to do so. Funny, witty, intelligent, with strong ethical boundaries and his own mind. well he'll be taking his wit, intelligence and strong ethical boundaries to hell
Land Shark Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 well he'll be taking his wit, intelligence and strong ethical boundaries to hell I'll see him there.
Citizen Erased Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 well he'll be taking his wit, intelligence and strong ethical boundaries to hell :lmao: I love you. May I start stalking you?
Land Shark Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Oh STFU who cares what you think. Go show everyone your fake ring again it's the highlight of your night to make strangers believe you actually have a life outside of your computer. At least you have an active imagination, too bad you are so freaking boring. Anyone notice how whenever this person is posting, Star isn't? Never at the same time... strange... is it just a coincidence?
burning 4 revenge Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Anyone notice how whenever this person is posting, Star isn't? Never at the same time... strange... is it just a coincidence? yeah, but neither is Storyrider
Star Gazer Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Anyone notice how whenever this person is posting, Star isn't? Never at the same time... strange... is it just a coincidence? OMG stop that right now! That is NOT me!!!
Citizen Erased Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 yeah, but neither is Storyrider Neither am I. But I know how to spell "Jewlery". I'm sure Story does too.
burning 4 revenge Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Neither am I. But I know how to spell "Jewlery". I'm sure Story does too. so you thought it was me because a word was misspelled?
Citizen Erased Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 so you thought it was me because a word was misspelled? Nah. I'm sure Lord Douglas would be more than effective in getting your opinion across.
Land Shark Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Neither am I. But I know how to spell "Jewlery". I'm sure Story does too. You're right. It must be KMT.
CandyGirlXO Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 You're right. It must be KMT. Yeah whatever happened to KMT???
BlueEyedGirl Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Yeah, they do. But most don't to the point of ruining their careers or personal lives. Well it's our career and personal life to ruin. As long as we are not ruining anyone else's, it's all good.
BlueEyedGirl Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 Well Ive never developed an unrequited crush and let it linger in the manner Spookie is. That is to the exclusion of all else But I think maybe men are different from women that way...although maybe not since there are a lot of male stalkers Yes exactly. There are a lot more male stalkers because when men develop a strong crush they take action. They don't fantasize for years and cry themselves to sleep, it's not in their nature. They don't torture themselves, they torture their crush. Someone once said that all fantasies are normal, as long as they stay in your head. This is all a LOT more common than you think but people are too embarassed to admit it because they fear being called crazy.
IrishCarBomb Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 well he'll be taking his wit, intelligence and strong ethical boundaries to hell Meh, it's ok. I'm already going to hell because I believe in the theory of evolution and that the earth revolves around the sun. Curse those public schools for instilling secular knowledge into my brain! Smiteth them! Oh yeah, and I haven't kept the holy sabbath in like a decade. I guess if I'm screwed like that, the least I can do is make some sense while I'm here.
JeezLouise Posted May 5, 2009 Posted May 5, 2009 You'll find that a number of posters, even the permanently banned ones like two of the posters in this thread, and others, who get around suspensions, of which there are several in this thread, use alternate screen names until their suspensions have been lifted. So I see.....
Author spookie Posted May 6, 2009 Author Posted May 6, 2009 Short, bald, underachiever (7 years to get to barely a supervisory level of one employee, which is you, unless that's changed) who would rather throw you under the bus, to save his own ass, rather than take a chance with you. Add in the couch potato part and what you have isn't a high demand guy. Your standards are pretty low, spookie, if this is the kind of guy you're raising to a pedestal. TBF... I know you mean best. I know you think I just need to knock him off the pedestal, but the thing is, I honestly don't think I've put him on one. Maybe it's the tone of my descriptions or something, that make me sound so princessy-naive. (I'm just trying to get across how great he is.) But I don't buy that he's not that great. I have feelings for him. Those aren't supposed to be based on a list of fairy-tale characteristics, in the first place. But in the second place... I honestly that he's a really great guy. And I think I know him well enough to make that kind of assertion. I don't buy that he's "nothing special", but besides being smart, he is caring, kind, funny, cute, and responsible. He's a good teacher, he can be gentle, he sees the best in people, and he's not afraid to stand up to anyone, or to lead. Possessing all those qualities together is rare. And then there's the fact of my feelings for him. It's just not an easy infatuation to get over, esp. when I see him everyday. Try as I might. But honestly. He's not on a pedestal.
Author spookie Posted May 6, 2009 Author Posted May 6, 2009 Thanks, Isolde I stand by my original advice. Knock that guy off his pedestal. You CAN retrain your thoughts, but there has to be a strong motivation to do so. Fantasizing about Jack (nice pseudonym, Spook) feels good, and she will continue to do it until someone else grabs her attention. Then she will start fantasizing about that guy, and Jack will not be so hot anymore. The fact is that he probably does feel chemistry with her. I don't doubt it at all. But having chemistry and wanting a relationship are two totally different things. I have amazing chemistry with a friend's boyfriend, but there is no way on God's green earth that I would ever go out with him, or him, me. Listen to Trial, Spookie. The guy threw you under the bus to save his arse. I mean, the guy went to HR for Chrissakes. He jeopardized your career to save his own. Get it? Thanks CB for the input. I still asset he's not on a pedestal, but I can see how it might come off that way. One thing I want to clear up: he did NOT go to HR. After asking me for permission after we had strategized how to get me a transfer, he went to HIS boss, who went to HR. It was my decision to be honest and open about the whole thing; inevitably that led to my convos with them.
Author spookie Posted May 6, 2009 Author Posted May 6, 2009 I agree here 100% What is so interesting about Spookie's posts is that I can relate so much to them. I have had a crush on my co-worker for over 2 years, and although I never wrote about it much on LS, I still had the same thoughts as Spookie. Now we are together! But he isn't technically my boss, so its not as bad. But we are keeping it hush hush at work for other reasons. So I can relate. What is funny is, I too put him up on a pedestal, and now that we are together things about him surprise me. Its not exactly what I expected but I am still happy. Going on almost 5 months now.... As far as Jack goes, I know exactly how you feel, and I know it is hard. It was for me, before we became a couple. I thought about leaving my job, but with the economy the way it is, that wasn't possible. I would just take my mind off of him as much as possible. He started paying more attention to me the more I tried to not think about him. I am sorry you feel this way. I know it sucks, when you think someone is perfect for you, but they don't feel the same way. Thats how I was too, and now that we are together, I am constantly thinking he is too good for me, why does he like me, what do I have to offer, etc... etc... And it is even harder to realize that if it all goes down hill, I still have to see him 5/days a week, 40 hours. Good luck to you Spookie, really good luck with trying to move on. That is what you need to do. I could see you watching episodes of The Office wishing he was Jim and you were Pam. I did that also. I know how hard it is. But like Isolode was saying I am sure he isn't the person you think he is exactly. You know him from work only, and you have no idea how he is in his personal life. Thats been kind of a shocker to me. Just remember that, tell yourself that he is NOT what you think he is. And if it were "meant to be" then it would happen. You will find someone, I truly believe that. Oh god. I do watch the office just to fantasize through their relationship. I hope your relationship works out. I got shivers just reading about it. You are so lucky.
Author spookie Posted May 6, 2009 Author Posted May 6, 2009 3000 people read this thread. This is of some concern to me. I hope none of them were my co-workers, or anyone else that I know. But.... Do I care if I'm found out on here? If Jack stumbles on this, and reads all my threads? I have decided I don't. This is my way of sorting through thoughts, of letting off emotional steam. So what? Some people drink, some smoke crack. I make posts on LS. As far as I can tell, mine is more healthy. And it's not all that I do. And he's not all that I think about. He's just the source of all my frustration. The topic all my songs would be on, if I was a singer instead. So I only post about him. I don't think anyone gets to judge me for that. All I'm doing is being honest about my life and my thoughts. WTF is wrong with that? It shouldn't be freaky to anyone. Maybe if more of us were honest, less of us would feel crazy.
Land Shark Posted May 6, 2009 Posted May 6, 2009 This is my way of sorting through thoughts, of letting off emotional steam. So what? Some people drink, some smoke crack. I make posts on LS. As far as I can tell, mine is more healthy. You don't even smoke the green stuff anymore. So I can see how you'd need to do this here.
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