JMC Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 But kinda interesting. I met my MM almost two years ago now. My situation seems to be unusual in what I've seen in that MM is the one who's totally backed away, faded away...nothing's going on with us right now. I came to LoveShack to post something in the dating section, peeked in here, and thought I'd write this. Last thing I wrote, about a year and a half ago, was that he'd "dumped" me because of his kids (the pain of that ending was indescribable; I hadn't fallen like that for anyone probably ever in my life). What happened after that though is that we made a couple of attempts after that to see each other but they were never like it was in the beginning when we first met two years ago. We tried to reconnect a year ago, and once more last fall, but it was always the same thing. He seemed eager to see me, and like he really missed me; I'd feel that crazy hope, but would be terrified of getting hurt again; and then as always before, everything would peter out cuz he never ever had time to get together. Always cancelling and rescheduling. I could never understand why he'd always want to start it all back up again if he never had time. This last fall it pretty much faded away, but on good terms at least. I mean, how can anything be sustained if you never see someone? My point is here that mine seems to be unusual from what I've seen in that this MM chose to be with his family. Which is really good for them. And prolly me too lol. Ours didn't just go on and on, and the love didn't get deeper and deeper and more desperate. There was no moving out, moving in, wife finding out, nothin'. God there were so many times I wanted it to be that way, because that would've shown he wanted to be with me, but it didn't. The other day I was just wondering if I'm still emotionally messed up from our first times together. I was sooooo vulnerable. I'd just come out of a 5 1/2 year relationship of complete neglect in all ways. So lonely and so vulnerable. I met him and fell really hard. He promised me the universe, including the fact that he'd never hurt me, and that we'd be together. I never asked him to do any of that. The pain after he retreated was indescribable. And there he is now, family intact, wife and kids still there, a nice family all together. Here I am still looking for someone decent to date. Things worked out fantastically for him. He got a woman to fall hard for him, have sex with him, build his ego up pretty good. He got to find out through all that, that leaving them was not what he wanted. He got some much-needed attention and nookie. I'm still out here, wondering, but hoping I'm not still messed up from it. Time will tell I suppose.
OpenBook Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 It will mess you up ONLY if you let it. You have more power than you realize. [[Hugs]] Lesson learned.
White Flower Posted May 4, 2009 Posted May 4, 2009 The pain after he retreated was indescribable. And there he is now, family intact, wife and kids still there, a nice family all together. Here I am still looking for someone decent to date. Things worked out fantastically for him. He got a woman to fall hard for him, have sex with him, build his ego up pretty good. He got to find out through all that, that leaving them was not what he wanted. He got some much-needed attention and nookie. I'm still out here, wondering, but hoping I'm not still messed up from it. Time will tell I suppose. The hard part was knowing that he allowed you to fall in love with him, maybe even knowing you would get hurt despite his promise to never do so. I'm sure you will always ponder this one thing, yet it is a lesson learned. Good to hear from you again.
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